How do I get over him?

[emmieloux]

On paper I have a pretty good life and should be happy with my lot. I have a nice house, wonderful family, a great boyfriend who loves me a lot and would do anything for me.

However, a few months ago I met somebody else and we had a physical and emotional affair. My boyfriend found out and was absolutely heartbroken but he loves me so has agreed to give things another try. I know I'm really lucky and most men would have walked away.

It was a mutual decision to break things off with the OM but I can't stop thinking about him no matter what I do.

I tell myself that I can't possibly love him because I have only known him for 4 months and I need to be pleased with what I have and move on.
How do I do it?

It's totally possibly to love someone after 4 months, but only you know if that's the case.
But you need to think hard about it, you're boyfriend doesn't need to have his heart broken twice over the same man, and you don't need to live your life with the wrong person.
I think ultimately, only you will be able to answer how you feel about this, but I wish you luck, and hope you find your happiness.

was the OM free or married?
If you are not married, then why did you break off something that sounds as if it was what you really wanted?

If you are not legally tied, and the OM wanted to carry on- why not?

Emm....more info. please OP.
If you are still thinking about OM, maybe there was/is more to it than a fling. Do you think or know if he is over you?
Maybe, your present BF is not the man for you.