New relationship

[jco]

after being on my own for 3 years i have being seeing a guy for the past couple of months. I'm really head over heals but for some reason can't seem to relax with the whole thing. i'm so paranoid that its all going to go wrong that i'm over anaylizing every little thing he says or does. Its like i'm just waiting for it to go wrong, i don't know if it like a defence thing cos its really scary being in a new relationship after so long, especially having my two little rugrats to consider. any advice?

i am the 'forever pessimist'. but its not a healthy way to live. enjoy the moment and take it to the next level when it feels right. dont think marraige and what if he leaves, think, what are we all going to do next week and what shall i wear!!!

Cx

try to live for now, Easier said than doen, especially if you have been let down before!
I am a bit like you, but I have been with my 'new man' for 5 years now and have 2 babies, so relax and enjoy!

It's natural and very sensible to be ultra careful in your situation. You don't want all the upheaval of another split for you little ones, you don't want the hassle of a bad relationship yourself when you are so busy being a single parent. Just hang back and let things take their natural course, take your time and soon it will become clear whether he is right for you or not.

Tread slowly and carefully and you will feel in control and safe.