How would you feel if your OH could only get it up in one position?

[NitroNita]

DP has gotten into the habit of asking me to "turn over" everytime we're about to have sex. Apparantly he can only get it up properly if I'm laying on my stomach or on hands and knees. I think he over-does the porn personally and this is affecting how he sees our sex life. I also feel a little insulted that the only way I can turn him on is if I'm not facing him. He promises to stop with the porn but still carries on.

Would you be offended if your OH constantly asked you to "Turn over" so he could get it up?

I'd be looking for another OH .......

Shhh, but my h is a bit similar, although he wouldnt admit it, so well done there. I dont know whether it is me (not convinced) or a combination of that, and his age. Certainly his erections, whilst great, arent consistently what they used to be. Still, there are loads of other things/positions to try.

PS It does bother me, too, but whatcan you do- I can assure you that if you make a big deal of it, he will flag, and in more ways than one!

Yes I would if it was the only way he could get it up. However I'm quite partial to being turned over myself so I'd be happy to participate but not if it was the only way he could get turned on. A bit of variety please

Yes I wouldn't like this :( It can be fun, but it's also nice to see your partner's face sometimes.

The porn thing would bother me too.

I would think he didn't fancy me, tbh.

This thread is a bit deja-vu.

Lots of one post wonders around this week.

I would be highly insulted and would not be having sex with him.

Psychosexual therapists will often ask questions about preferred sexual positions because it can be a valuable indication of what else is happening in a relationship - and why.

An over reliance on this position tends to indicate that the partner requesting it needs to dehumanise the other. It will also often indicate excessive porn use and deep-rooted problems with intimacy.

OP you do have a choice about staying with someone who lies to you. This is a significant and (I would think) connected issue.

OR, he could be of a certain age and is beginning to struggle with his erections and know that that postion works. As he knows that works he wont try anything else incase it doesnt and he "fails".

Try not letting him finish, roll back over and say that was fantastic/God I'm so wet etc and do something else. Might break the cycle and reassure him he can do it. Blow job might work.