BF is pregnant - how can I support her best?

[JosieRosie]

BF told me the other day she's nearly 8 weeks pregnant. She was very ambivalent about the whole thing but seems quite happy and excited now it's happening. Her H is a twunt - too many examples to give - and she's only having a baby because he wants one. She is quite interested in becoming a parent, but would have preferred to adopt. But H's decisions always trump hers

I'm glad that she's happy and doing ok for now. She told me he was trying to stop her telling her parents or friends until he tells his parents at Xmas. Her parents and friends have nothing to do with his parents so it's not like he's worried they would find out by accident, he's just a control freak. Luckily she responded like this and told me anyway!

How can I best support her with a pregnancy she wasn't completely up for and with a tosser of a H? I'm not a parent and have no plans to be one so all advice gratefully received, practical as well as emotional suggestions.
TIA

Congratulations to her. Only advice is not to get judgey about her DH or any of her thoughts/anxieties about the pregnancy/future. Just be as supportive as you can and try to avoid being drawn into sides/giving opinions. If she doesn't have too many symptoms through her pregnancy, eg sickness, nausea, aches and pains, she may well want to focus on what else is going on in her life and not go on about the pregnancy all the time, so don't assume that her interests will change too much, be guided by her. And probably, if you're a really good friend, you'll be able to tell her if she's going on about it too much and try to get her to talk/think about other things, too.

As time goes on, she may want to go out less or so different things when you meet up, if she's very tired, doesn't want to be around booze/other boozy friends/other things. Again, be supportive and see if you can be flexible, too.

If he's a controlling/abusive guy, then you need to be the quiet reassuring voice that validates her feeling her relationship isn't normal and encourages her to resist his control. If it gets too hard to watch her suffer this or he succeeds in pushing you out, just let her know your door will be open if she needs you.