Help requested with the 'exclusive' chat- Internet dating related!

[wrigglytummy]

I have been seeing a guy I met on the Internet for a couple of months. I like him alot, but he is very laid back. I want to find out if he is seeing anyone else & where he sees the relationship going, but I am scared of coming across as intense. I'm not looking for mega-commitment or anything, just a bit of self preservation to stop myself getting hurt.
But I do not know how to approach it in a make-friendly way. I do not want to scare him off.
Any ideas or experiences ladies?

Arghhh, couple of months worth of chatting on a dating site is equivelent to a a 1 yr relationship in the RW;)

I'd probably be direct and ask if he want to meet up for a coffee, and then suss the situation face to face.

My daughter's internet dating and her new dating partner just said to her that he was going to deactivate his account as he wanted to concentrate on getting to know her better without distractions. Then asked whether she felt the same way - which she does. Seemed like a gentle way to do it without a big discussion that would be difficult to have - for me at least!

Pie, I have seen him 8 or 9 times in the last few months, not just chatting online! Itsxmas, that could be an option. Many thanks

Boxing Day is an ideal time for 'the chat' - when a profusion of summer holiday ads vie with the inevitable winter sale promotions on the tv.

As he's a laid back guy I would suggest that, instead of a 'where is this relationship going' heart-to-heart, you approach the subject obliquely by seeing if he's up for planning a vacation with you. '

Why play games? You want to know and feel it is time to ask so just ask!!