So, does she utterly adore him and will soon get sick of him or....

[Bogeyface]

....is he completely different with her?

This is about my 21 yr old DS btw! And I am not at all jealous or hating of his GF (25, older woman!), infact I am so grateful she has managed to turn him into a human being, but I am curious....

When he is at home he is useless, I adore him, but he really is! Forgets EVERYTHING, has this gormless Kevin-esque "What?!" about him and is so clumsy it has to be seen to be believed.

But when he comes back from hers, that she shares with a friend, he is always moaning about her and her BF doing exactly what he does here! The friend and the BF go out and forget their keys, so either DS or his GF have to let them in at stupid o'clock. Or they cook a meal and leave all the pots and pans out so DS and GF have to clean up before they can cook. GF was in hospital for a week a couple of months back, and DS was FUMING at the state of the house when he took her home (they dont live together so there was no need for him to go there when she was ill).

So, either he is still as bad at hers and she will get sick of him and dump him (PLEASE NO!!!! DONT LET THAT HAPPEN!) or he is a different person with her and doesnt take her for granted and is actually a decent BF. Please tell me it is the latter!

Let's hope it's the latter... I'd be hoping he moved in with her!!

I am chipping, but they cant afford their own place atm!

She is absolutely wonderful, I just dont want him to fuck it up :o

It's the latter, but if he moves in with her there's a strong possibility that once his desire to impress the first flush wears off he will replicate his behaviour at home unless she's able to reprogramme him.

What do you mean they can't afford a place of their own - she has a place

She wants to move and he doesnt want to move in there, their plan is to save for their own place as they can save more living apart.

If it werent for the nightmare flatmate, I would have packed his bags by now! :o

That is my worry Izzy, and I have not been backward in coming forward about that! "She will soon get sick of you if you dont pull your weight financially and around the house you know...." :o

It occurs to me that she may be out to impress too, Bogey, in which case fingers crossed that they live happily ever after in mutual slobdom without needing to stay at yours for more than a night every 5 years or so

In the interim maybe you can encourage him to save harder by letting your unwashed pots & pans block the kitchen sink and coming home at silly o'clock having forgotten your key?