Not quite, but a few similarities in the past. Always in the home office at weekends, then football on TV loads, out alot of evenings, even though it was roughly work related. He was impossible to persuade re spending time with me and kids, and clearly saw us as ' me plus you' , rather than us.
This went on in increasing amounts for several years after we had kids. I worked ft as well, and he left nearly all of the child/home stuff to me, and had lots of excused why he couldnt etc etc.
Finally in the summer I was ready to divorce him, and he persuaded me to stay. BUT three weeks later I discovered his 5 year internet sex habit, with help from mumsnet- he had made me believe that photos of women on his computer were accidentally downloaded with music.
That was a real breaking point in our relationship, at the end of September. I moved into the spare bedroom, and he sorted out a relate appointment. In the first week there he practically collapsed, calling himself a 'terrible husband and not much better father'. He admitted the internet infidelity. Within 7 weeks we had sorted ourselves out, and relate thought so too, but only because he has chosen to radically reexamine his life and motivations and also to talk about his feelings. He is also making stunning efforts to make me feel better about the internet stuff, and has taken complete responsibility for it.
Not sure what this tells you, but you can definitely take out of it that your h is not communicating with you about his FEELINGS, and if he could you may be able to sort things out. My h wishes we had gone to relate years ago, and bitterly regrets both the infidelity and the fact I didnt catch him out earlier.