If my husband was unfaithful I would chop off his goolies

[jasper]

Can I just say this is not true but it is something I have heard said by women and seen written down lots of times. It generally goes unchallenged.

This or a variant.

I find it really worrying that it is deemed okay for women to say things like this .Or is it ok? DO others feel really uncomfortable about women using this kind of vocabulary?

Imagine if you were looking through Fathers' Direct and you came across a similar comment by a man. I will leave it to your imagination the exact wording of what a man might do to his unfaithful wife. Would you not be appalled?

this wont get as many responses as the giving your child choc infront of other children

misdee, as long as everyone is offered one and everyone is allowed, it's fine.

Was thinking about you the other day jasper, where have you been?

nope, because i think very few people actually mean they would commit the physical act of castration! its just a way of saying they would hit the roof, be angry beyond belief etc

is it the word goolies you object to, or the idea of doing physical harm to someone as an act of revenge?

if my wife was unfaithful i;d chop up her credit cards?

No. Because women generally do not mean it and do not do it. Whereas a much higher proportion of men get violent in a jealous fit, and batter their wives.

Gooly-chopping isn't an epidemic, I have only ever heard of it happening once, in America (Bobbit?), but 70% of hospital dental repair work is done on women as a direct result of DV.

colditz

Thats what I wanted to say, but did'nt know how to word it.

Lol at your 2nd sentence though

Of course, 'Gooly-chopping isn't an epidemic' was what I found funny, not the fact that it has happened to some bloke.

I like the word goolies but bollocks is even better. Have always taken such comments with a pinch of salt and felt that the likelihood of grave injury is usually low. Do generally find the idea of body parts being cut off most unpalatable, however. But worse when threatened by a man to a woman because of societal gender inequality and the tendency for men to have greater physical strength.

goolie chopping comments are usually meant in a joke like way! Now if they said something like 'I'd pour hot wax over his nuts' then I'd be worried!

missed the one about choc in front of other kids...surely noone would dare

MrsSpoon I have been in a corner eating cakes and drinking wine.

It's not to do with the fact they would not really do it it is to do with the inequality in what is acceptable to say about men by women and vice versa. It was dh who got me thinking this way.

he said imagine the outcry if you read on a perfectly respectable men's parenting site (stop laughing, ther ARE such places) "If my wife was unfaithful I would chop off her " . Obviously very few men would actually do this but it would be shocking and unacceptable to see it written as a metaphor for " I would blow my top"

colditz where did you get your stats on hospital dental repair work?
that's what I do for a living and have not found that to be the case

That sounds like the life!

But the world is unequal. It's not fair, and it's not right, but it's true.

Notice the total lack of outcry at fathers leaving toddlers in nurseries for 10 hours a day.

IMO men don't give a toss when women say things like this. They don't feel threatened at all, because of the all the reasons given in this thread - gender inequality, the fact that women never do it etc - also it is a known metaphor for being angry - just as 'raise hell' or 'go stark raving mad' are. It is a well-known phrase that means 'get very angry'. Not a threat.

My husband gives a very big toss and that is why he brought it to my attention.

jasper, I got them from a leaflet on domestic violence that i was sent by leicestershire Police, but they don't quote their sources in it.

I concede it may be biased information, as it is from a DV leaflet.

I do understand what you are saying Jasper, it's not so much the postings on the internet that I mind (I have made a few idle threats to men on here myself) it's when I watch trashy daytime chat shows and the woman admits to hitting the man or attacks him when he comes on and the crowd laugh and find it funny, but my god if the man does it or has done it they instantly jump on him boohing, shouting and suggest that he gets himself into therapy.

That in my opinion is wrong, but the wesite thing doesn't bother me.

Did I just admit to watching daytime chat shows

Its DH he makes me do it, even though he works all day maybe I should chop his ghoolies off

WHY ARE YOU ALL UP SO LATE?

The 8 week old has kept me awake screaming and I have gone through that sleepy stage and I'm now waiting for it to come back so that I can go to bed.

I do see where you are coming from, Jasper, but I think the other comments on this thread are very pertinent. And I think it does boil down to the fact that in 99.9% of cases, when a woman says something like this, she is blowing off steam (apart from Bobbitt, I don't know of a case where a woman has actually followed through with a threat like this). When a man says something along similar lines there is a whole historical undercurrent of domestic/sexual violence. I don't think I'm explaining it very well - it's more instinctive than logical.

But if a gf said "I'm going to cut his goolies off" I'd sympathise and make her a cup of coffee. If a man said the equivalent it would make me very uncomfortable.Double standards? Definitely.

Ear infection that gets painful when I lie down, don't want to go to bed. Now struggling to keep eyes open though.

Just asked dp the question.

"What would you think if I screamed at you that I was going to chop off your goolies?"

"Dunno."

"Would you be frightened that I would do it?"

"No... what are you on about? Have you been on Mumsnet again?"

lol colditz, so glad DH has gone to bed because I know if I had asked him I would have got the exact same reply.