Non Molestation Order or Non Harrassment Order

[ToddlersRFab]

Has anyone been to court to ask for a Non Molestation order or Non Harrassment Order against an ex H.

I am talking to my solicitor tomorrow about both, as he is torturing me mentally with constant contact.

We have a DS (4) and I need to understand how it will affect access etc.

Any information / advice welcome.

I am not a lawyer but you should be able to get something in place that prohibits this man from contacting you directly in any way. So any necessary communications regarding seeing DS can be handled via a third party eg he emails [whoever] and [whoever] says to you, XH can't make contact this weekend/wants to know if he can see DS on Saturday in stead of Sunday, you give your answer and [whoever] refers it to XH.
In the meantime, switch off your phone or just ignore his calls, do not respond to emails, and if he turns up on the doorstep don't let him in and call the police if he won't go away.

I did
I got an exparte one 3 weeks after the second time I'd called the police.
It will affect contact depending on what your concerns are. If you feel contact is not safe then you can ask for supervised etc or if you're not worried about contact with DS then you can either get someone else to do the handovers or you could have it written into the order that although you will do handover's he is not allowed to intimidate you in any way during the handover. The court can write all sorts of things into an order (within reason obviously).

Goodluck and don't feel guilty and don't be bulldozed by your solicitor either x

Thanks for the advice.

Police have been called once. We have an access agreement, but not through the court yet. And it may take weeks to formalise through the court.

He is bullying me into agreeing 50/50 residency order, and financial orders, neither of which my solicitor wants me to agree.

He is also changing the agreed access arrangements on a weekly basis, and expecting me to accept these too.

Just need some space to breath, as he contacts me daily, and bombards me with contact when he is trying to push things through.

Was he abusive before you split?
it sounds as though he's doing all this to 'get at' you and not because he's actually interested.
Its a really horrible situation to be in and if you can get an order, then get one. x

You can ignore his phone calls, texts and emails, and call the police if he turns up uninvited. Send him a text or email saying 'Do not contact me directly, address your concerns to my solicitor' or something along those lines.