Think I have blown it

[Sexonlegs]

Oh God. My marriage to dh has been rocky for some time but this morning he was so cross with me and is now refusing to pick up the phone when I call him.

All that happened was I was getting ready for work, and he commented on my knickers being sexy. Seemingly I pulled a face, and he is now saying that I made him feel a pervert for just looking at me.

I guess this has just pushed him over the edge. I never meant to pull a face, and I certainly never intended to make him feel a pervert.

He says we need to talk, but he is away on business until tomorrow night so we will need to talk on the phone.

My stomach's in knots.

Sorry, long rant, and don't expect any feedback, but just had to get it off my chest as I cannot concentrate on anything else.

Have you been having problems for a while?

Yes, quite a while. Particularly in relation to sex. I can see where dh is coming from, but I don't know what to do.

he is refusing to answer the phone because you made a face?

sorry, but i think that's pretty childish!

How do you know he is refusing to answer?

If he is away on business he might be genuinely busy or generally not in a position to talk about such serious things. Perhaps.

Anyway, i hope it works out for you. x

This is his problem, not yours.

But the fact that he is trying to say his crappy mood is YOUR fault is really bizarre and controlling behaviour.

You sound a bit like someone making excuses for why their dh has hit them, tbh. How can you making a face "push him over the edge"? Have a talk about your relationship by all means, but don't let HIM blame YOU for HIS stupid feelings.