Bored with sex or bored with my partner? Not sure which.

[Plecostomus]

We've been together 15 years or so, both past 40, got a couple of DC. Generally we get on pretty well, we have a laugh and I think there's still a spark between us. We still love each other, and neither of us has ever been unfaithful.

Lately though, sex has become routine to the point where it's boring. We do it, maybe once a week, usually at bedtime, in bed, and the routine is always the same - foreplay, missionary, woman-on-top, missionary to finish. It's fine, it's nice, we both enjoy it, we both orgasm every time. I don't expect it to be like when we first met, but surely it should be a bit more exciting than this? It's kind of "I suppose we should have sex tonight" "Yeah, ok then, but I want to watch Newsnight first, ok?". The trouble is, I'm not even that bothered about it, which bothers me IYSWIM.

Am I expecting too much and actually this is how it is?

I hope you don't mind a mans perspective on this.
I do sympathise with you, we have been married for 13 years now and have 2 DC and sex can become routine.
For one reason or another we have, as I call it, re-invented our sex life.
We have become much more adventurous and on occasion can't keep our hands off eachother.
Having 2 DC though can get awkward, we only make out in bed now as the boys are up and around till about 11:00pm, especially on school holidays, we find ourselves going to bed quite late so as not to disturb them.
We can get pretty naughty so I won't discuss it openly but we have both made an effort to like and try different things, nowdays (as we both get older) we are not ashamed to experiment.
Give it a go, wear something sexy, do something different, send eachother some naughty texts. Thats as far as I'm going in an open forum ;)

That does sound a bit boring tbh. "Nice" doesn't always cut it. a bit of hard, rough sex is good sometimes ( just a bit hard on the knees) .

It won't take much to pep things up a bit, grab him midweek in the shower or straddle him on the sofa for a quickie, great sex doesn't have to be about orgasms - look at the sex positons 101 website for some inspiration, once you've stopped laughing it may give you both some ideas.

Saturday/Sunday morning sex is particularly nice, especially when you get a cuppa and a bacon butty afterwards.

You're definitely not expecting too much, I have to remind DH sometimes because there's one position he favours above all others ( me on top)
but that's because he's getting lazy in his old age. I like to wear him out.

Oh, meant to say we've been married for 26 years and sex has never been better than the past 4/5 years. That could have something to do with no kids at home any more