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Can't stop thinking about sex...

15 replies

FeelingHorny · 07/11/2003 17:08

I was at a residential work event last week with a number of people from my office. On the last evening there was a dinner with lots of alcohol flowing and inevitably lots of lowering of inhibitions.

After dinner in the bar, one of my colleagues (an attractive, single guy - not an old creep or anything) started confessing that he had always found me immensely attractive and has fancied me ever since he met me. And then he basically he propositioned me.
He knows I'm married with a child.

I was so surprised/shocked and I suppose flattered that I rather panicked, gently made my excuses and left to go to my room (it was 2 a.m. !)

The next day he took me to one side and apologised profusely for his 'inappropriate behaviour' (his words) and he reiterated this once again when we were back in the office.

Clearly the incident has passed, and should be forgotten, but the problem is that I can't put it out of my mind!
I simply can't stop thinking about him, thinking about what it would have been like to have sex with him. Wondering what he looks like naked etc etc.
Every time I see his name I get a shiver of excitement down my spine. Everytime I see him in the office I feel really horny and flushed.

It's ridiculous, but I can't seem to get him out of my mind.
Clearly I have no intention of acting on it, but what can I do to stop feeling like this? On one hand it's rather exciting, but also quite scarey in the way it's taking me over!

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beetroot · 07/11/2003 17:13

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Slink · 08/11/2003 11:32

Im with Beetroot let your imaginenation run wild, but wow when another guy finds you interesting fancy's you it does give you a buzz...

Janstar · 08/11/2003 11:43

Thinking about it would probably be the best bit. If you actually did it he'd probably be a disappointment like they often are

Moomin · 08/11/2003 13:47

I think everyone's right. You wouldn't be human if you went through your whole life and didn't find other people attractive. And it's VERY thrilling having that kind of flushed and horny feeling, like the start of something very exciting.
BUT I'd say that, unless there were problems in your marriage and this is a regular thing that reflects an underlying problem, it's much better left as a fantasy. Be chuffed that someone fanciable thinks you're gorgeous (you go girl!) and ride it through (sorry - no pun intended) until it wears off - which it will eventually.

beetroot · 08/11/2003 13:52

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SimonHoward · 08/11/2003 15:54

FH

As the others have said, use the feelings, get as much as you can and then suprise hubby. He will appreciate it.

BelieveMe · 08/11/2003 19:00

I've had three extra marital affairs, as my changed nickname suggests, don't do it, it was never as good as sex with DH.

Yes, there was lots of excitement, thrill, tension, but the sex was a big disppointment.

Chinchilla · 08/11/2003 21:50

Ooh, the feeling of being fancied rotten, I haven't had that for a while. Enjoy it. You say that you don't intend to do anything about it...well you have nothing to worry about. Do as others have said and put it to good use with your dh.

He probably would have been cr*p anyway, and you would have had to worry about whether everything was allright etc, which one doesn't have with a dh!

Chinchilla · 08/11/2003 21:51

Sorry - 'alright'

CountessDracula · 09/11/2003 15:02

I'm with beetroot, I sometimes fancy other people and enjoy that but would never do anything about it.

CountessDracula · 09/11/2003 15:02

I'm with beetroot, I sometimes fancy other people and enjoy that but would never do anything about it.

SecretLife · 10/11/2003 12:38

BelieveMe - I'm intrigued - did they end/ did you finish them, or did they fizzle out?

I'm intrigued because I have an 'occasional' arrangement with two 'ex-lovers/affairs' in cities miles away from home that I visit on business maybe once or twice a year.
We meet up, have a nice meal out, then great sex -inhibition-free/ toys/ fun etc.
Sounds so dreadful written down I know, but it's just sort of happened this way. It fills a need of mine which I just don't get from DH.
Am I weird/ alone, or is anyone else willing to confess to something similar?
(I can't believe I've written this - obviously NO ONE knows....)

salt · 10/11/2003 12:48

Secretlife, your're not alone but that's all I'm saying - would have to change my nickname to further confess and am too lazy.

GuiltyToo · 12/11/2003 16:05

Nope, Secretlife, you're not alone. I had a similar situation for a while (about 4 years) But only with one guy, not TWO! (Lucky you )
And it was just in a different part of the country - not overseas.
But once I became a SAHM it just stopped cos I didn't travel there anymore (previously thru work)

Often think about it though!...

Wherearemymarbles · 21/05/2024 18:49

Feck me
21 year old zombie thread
i wonder if those people posting about their affairs are still married!

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