Sociopaths

[GerardWay]

I have every reason to believe that one of my InLaws is a sociopath. What I don't understand is why when they are caught out in their lies they manage to charm everyone round to thinking they (ie us) got it wrong. Even the adult children continue to fall for it everytime. I (and my DH who still falls for it all and DC's) have cut all contact with the person but worry about the damage he is doing to the rest of the family.

BH ds dad hurt ds to get at me :(

Warm I have always questioned if ex is schizoid personality, BP and aspergers and close family member has it too. Although my ex no where near as deluded/crazy thoughts as yours, but I am sure ex thinks he is God and above the law etc I am sure of it? Your is ex really bad...that isn't the schizophrenia it is him....a psychopath!

I just scored ex only got 29 so not a psychopath or boarderline...unless I am too soft? Hare's book read most of it free online and it was a lightbulb moment!

I think my grandmother is a sociopath.

I cut contact with her over a year ago because of the legacy of lies, shite, more lies, fabricated stories spread around her hometown etc.

It saddens me that she won't see my children, but I think it's emotionally safer for them and and me.

It's sad to read all the other posts on this thread, but I'm glad that our eyes are open.

I don't think my BIL would hurt his young children. He does see them all but separately, never together and there is one (an adult) that doesn't always toe the line and that makes him angry (his words not mine). He has been abusive to her quite a lot but she forgives him and end up believing all his lies. That said I would never of let him spend time on his own with my DC's.

I saw that Lovefraud came by (which I find a really good site) and I know there
was something on there about parenting with a psychopath, so decided to dig it up again:

www.lovefraud.com/Store.html

thanks suburb good to reread that site. Funny how you forget things...

Ex wanted to marry me fast? He also convinced me to take on his 26K debt from his uni and car loans, he got a ind mortgage 'friend of the family' to visit us....we were 3 days away from signing the paperwork and I happened to mention it to family member....I was advised to get it drawn up legally. I told then dp that I wanted it drawn up so his 26K is clearly ;his' debt if we broke up. He left me 2 days later and 5 months pregnant....for OW that he had met over internet 2 months earlier! I nearly lost my house...I think that would have finished me off at that time tbh.

Martha Stout is essential reading for a psychopath.

1. You CANNOT win against a psychopath. You cannot outsmart, outwit, outmanipulate. You cannot appeal to any better sense or higher power.

1. Do not try. You will lose.

1. The only solution is DO NOT ENGAGE. Do not even bother with normal politeness or pleasantries these are used as a hook.

1. They cannot feel hurt, humiliation or embarrassment, so don't worry about being polite. Simply say 'I do not want to talk to you'.

1. STAY AWAY from them.

The statistic that Stout gave, that I found absolutely chilling: psycopaths feature very predominantly in sexual child abuse, to the extent when you see 'paedophile' think 'psychopath';
and in drug addiction (their lives are empty and drugs relieve the boredom).

That the biblical description of 'evil' and the medical diagnosis of pychopath are eerily similar.

Regarding the contact centre, what about just not going? Then saying, 'sorry, I forgot. How about tomorrow?'