Please recommend a book to me on relationships

[craftyknickers]

Ok I have read 'why does he do that' and it was fab, it helped me come to terms with what I was going through and was the biggest eye opener of my life

What I am looking for now is a book on dealing with being in a normal relationship, how not to be needy and jealous.

Has anyone read 'why men love bitches?' don't be alarmed by the title it doesn't teach you how to be a bitch

I have not read it but the reviews are good, your opinions would be appreciated.

I have that book. My friend bought it for me when I first started dating again after 20 years of marriage. I like the book. It gives advice on how to have a relationship on your terms and not his, but not in a preachy way and it is also quite funny too.

Something by John Gottman.

Not so much specifically about jealousy, but lots (based on academic psychological studies) about what makes healthy normal relationships work, and how to learn from that.

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"Mating in Captivity" by Esther Perel - that will give a different perspective - it's basically about finding your balance between security & eroticism, and so does touch on jealousy. It's a different idea from the likes of Shirley Glass and other American writers who recommend the relationship should be almost a hermetically sealed unit. (Personally not a fan of that.)

"Sex Love & The Dangers of Intimacy" by Nick Duffell & Helena Lovendale
This is somewhat intense and is maybe most enjoyable for people who already know a bit of counselling & therapy theory. It's basically about the relationship as a joint psychological journey and how to deal with ways in which your partner inevitably has some frustrating similarities with people from your past.

I have read 'why men love bitches' and really enjoyed it. It's not very deep though.

'Women who love too much' by Robin Norwood was a great help to me.

Thank you, that's a great help

It's such a minefield being in a relationship let alone one after a bad experience.

Think I just need some guidance to stop me going crazy