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feeling a bit sad......................whinge - sorry

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prettyfly1 · 09/01/2006 14:16

didnt know where to whinge about this. i handed my little honey who is 9 months and the light of my life over to childminder this morning. When i went back to work he was only 3 months, but i am a single mum so to have any real standard of life i have to work ( i have big debts, blah blah blah). At that time i didnt find it too hard, but since xmas, i am hating it.

I need to work, not just for the rent but for me, its a big part of who i am, but i see so little of my honey and i really wish i could be with him more . Any other mums feel like this, how did you get used to it!

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spursmum · 09/01/2006 14:21

I've just asked you where abouts you are as I'm in Hatfield too.
I know the feeling about debts but I am "lucky" (if you want to call it that) to get DLA and other benefits so really don't have to work.
Could you not work part-time and claim some benefits to give you the best of both worlds? How about talking to a debt agency abut reducing your debt payments?

anniemac · 09/01/2006 15:40

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prettyfly1 · 09/01/2006 15:52

hi guys, i work in the town centre spurs, i live near birchwood. whereabouts are you.

i dont really get "me time" even when he is sleeping its go, go, go. i have a really high pressure job so no go on the flexihours front- although that would be fab. The debts will be cleared in may, i am paying a hell of a lot at the moment but they will all be gone by then so i kind of thought it was worth the trade. i dont know about you guys i jsut feel so guilty when i leave him and his little face falls. i want to be around just a little more. sorry whinging again. thanks for the posts, it does make me feel better!

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anniemac · 09/01/2006 16:04

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prettyfly1 · 09/01/2006 16:06

why thankyou, i am only twenty minutes outside of the city, and like you i end up working from home of an evenign to get things done. i may have a look at the nine day thing. see if there is a way i can sell it to the bosses!!!! me time doesnt exist and i dont mind that, i would jsut like more mummy time.

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spursmum · 09/01/2006 16:09

We are going to have to meet up at some point!
Have a mini meet-up with Sparklymieow and Misdee!
I'm living on the new estate up by the Next Generation gym.
I agree on the debts though, I pay through the nose too. Mine should be cleared by the end of the year just in time for ds to start full time school.

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prettyfly1 · 09/01/2006 16:11

ahthanks annie mac- good luck with work. spurs that would be great- all my pre baby friends have buggered off so it would be nice to meet some new people!!!! xxxx

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spursmum · 09/01/2006 16:15

More the merrier, my ds is 3, Misdee's dds are 5 3 and 9 months, my neighbours have little kids too so we'll try to work something out!

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prettyfly1 · 09/01/2006 16:19

i would definatey be up for that - it would be good fun!

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