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What would you do if your best friend was cheating on their partner?

31 replies

wildstrawberryplace · 07/12/2011 22:17

Just that really. My best friend is living abroad at the moment and has a long distance long term relationship with someone in a third country.

Over the last year my friend has serially cheated with a colleague and the partner found out but believed the lies spun to put them off the scent. Just found out my friend is still seeing and sleeping with the colleague, and I feel really quite sick and like I just don't know if I can carry on the friendship.

If you hadn't guessed already, my friend is a bloke. I am not close to the long term partner and didn't particularly like her but I feel his behaviour is unacceptable and that he should have the decency to finish the relationship. He won't though.

Could you carry on being friends in such circumstances? I have known this friend for over 20 years and it is a bit like contemplating cutting contact with a brother or something.

Am I being too involved with something that is not my concern? I feel no good about it.

OP posts:
fuzzynavel · 08/12/2011 13:17

What grumpla has said.

AChristmouseTail · 08/12/2011 13:29

I'd tell him how you feel if you are that close and it's really bothering you, get it off your chest.

You can't make him stop though. Don't get involved by telling his GF about any of it though, that's his duty.

Plus if you did tell her about his behaviour, I'd have little doubt that she wouldn't suspect you of being jealous and telling her just to cause trouble.

He sounds like a charmer. Hmm

MeltedAdventCalendarChocolates · 08/12/2011 17:14

I am in the same position. I have done nothing about it in that I have not grassed or cut off the person but I have told the person exactly what I think of it all and have little respect left for them.

MeltedAdventCalendarChocolates · 08/12/2011 17:15

And when I say I told them what I think I really did lay it on proper thick.

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wildstrawberryplace · 08/12/2011 18:04

Yeah, that's pretty much where I reckon this is going. I'm not going to say anything to the partner about it, I think that's a step too far.

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AnyFuckerForAMincePie · 08/12/2011 19:53

I choose my friends very wisely

That should be all you need to consider, really

I would downgrade this bloke to "casual acquaintance" and get on with your own life

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