Sharing housework when working part time. WDYD?

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Opinions and advice needed.I work part time 5 days a week (stressful demanding job) and DH full time (also stressful). I take the kids to school every day and pick them up except for about once a week when I work late and DH picks them up from out of school club.

I do everything round the house - cooking, cleaning, washing, ironing, homework with kids, packed lunches, etc, etc.

My DH is a great dad and husband and spends a lot of time with the kids, but does not help with any housework. He wil give the kids a bath if I really make a point of it, but I feel I shouldn't have to.

I feel so tired all the time and any help he caould give me would be great, but he just doesn't seem to see it?

What amount of housework do you other mums do who work part time? Am I being unreasonable to expect soem help? I am happy to do modt things as I work part time.

Sorry for the spelling mistakes

anyone?

I work 20 hours a week over 4 days, and have 3 children in 2 different schools. My DH works about 50 hours a week and is often away for long periods for work.

I do the bulk of the housework and childcare as well as school runs etc.

I'd say DH regularly does the ironing, and he'll help me make packed lunches each evening if he's back in time. He cooks both meals at the weekend and will push the vacuum cleaner around if asked. Actually he'll do any housework if I ask him, but I pretty much do it all because I'm home more.

If he's back in time he helps do bathtime and bedtime for the younger two.

I order the online shopping and if he's here he'll put it away!

Get a cleaner ?? Mine means we spend time together at weekends which is well worth £20 a week.
But DH does specific jobs, bins, empties dishwasher every morning and tends to put clean washing away.
Do chores and leave his washing?!?!!

I work part time. My dh does the cooking at the weekends, helps out with washing up if asked and is responsible for his own laundry (his choice after he got caught out with no clean underpants or shirts several times .
He also mows the lawn and does whatever DIY I direct him to do (under duress usually!!) and has the boys all Saturday while I work. If i leave him a list ie clean loos / do supermarket he will do his best. Basically he's great and I'm very lucky - he does far more than many of our friends. (won't let me buy a dishwasher though :()

Can you talk to your hub and explain how tired you are and that you need help and support in running the house?
I would suggest you sit down

Oops sorry about that last sentence!! Though yes I would suggest you sit down, with a glass of

The way to work out how fair or unfair things are in your house is as follows: how much leisure time does each of you get? Both adults in a couple should get the same amount of child-free, chore-free time.
It's not unreasonable that the one who works fewer hours outside the home works more hours inside the home, but it is unreasonable for one partner to do nothing at all round the house and take all the available leisure time for his own interests just because he has the higher-earning job.