reported to Social Services by ex....on my Birthday

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I am sat here shaking in shock!

Ex who hasn't seen ds for years has reported me to Social Services on my birthday! Can't believe it! Well I can he has done it before in hope ds taken from me so he doesn't have to pay.

Ex also sent appeal to court same day to not pay years of maintenance owed and any future payments. Can he really get away without paying child support? What reasons?

I am numb with shock!

It sounds like revenge, I'm sure the SW will see that. Rotten, nasty trick though, especially on your birthday. No real advice, except to tell SS what you've stated here, especially that he hasn't seen your son for years. Hope someone more knowledgeable comes along soon.

thank you needmoral the SW just reassurred him ds was fine and refused to disclose ds school (ex not got PR). Ex went to school in past also.
When ex realised got nowhere became offish losing the charm and cut phonecall short.

Fortunately, no harm done to you or to your ds but your ex won't look too good in Court if this little matter is revealed.

Ask your solicitor to obtain a written report from the social worker/social services detailing the conversation your ex initiated and the outcome so that it can be made available to the Court on the day of the Hearing for ex's appeal against the order for maintenance.

sadly no hearing the judge actually makes a decision with what ex reasons for appeal...so unfair can't even give evidence to prove what a lying dangerous sell his own mum for a few quid type of person he is!

Well he shot himself in the foot with appealing to the court and contacting SS on the same day. He could hardly have made it more obvious what his motives were could he?

What a loser shithead. Fingers crossed the judge sees him for what he is.

the judge wont know about SS not same law/country and will only go on the appeal ex has written.

Does anyone know the reasons ex will get off not paying support? He has stated ds his legally so cannot go down 'not my ds' line. What other bull will he vomit to get out of legally supporting his child?

I don't even know if I will ever get to find out reasons of appeal what ever the outcome.

His other options would be to say he has no money (though you should get small amount even if he's on benefits) or to vanish so CSA can't find him. But they obviously know where he is at the moment if he's busy appealing.

But can't imagine how SS would take much time over you if he's not seen DS for years. What evidence could he possibly have? They'll see it for what it is and find better things to spend their time on.

Oh, and Happy Birthday :)

What an evil piece of work.
I'm guessing the only reasons he can come out with are lack of money...then again depends how much he is willing to lie about I guess and I wouldn't put much past him by the sounds of it.

I would also say that you are very lucky he's out of your lives and far away x

SS are fab and understand what is going on. It was just a shock why I don't know ex did it two other times in past also on ds birthday so not new! But still shaken up...thankfully I never had news till day later and had a great birthday thank you purpleroses:)

BH the last time ex was due to give information in court ex took leave from work and claimed not working and then disappearred. This was 4 years ago. Ex has another dc which ex does pay a lot more support for where he lives.

I think ex is going to come out with a load of lies again. I just hope they go via the correct law procedures and not get sucked into ex's fantasy and do what law states!

If ex demands DNA can I ensure ex does the test supervised by court officials/doctors that are ligit as ex would falsify the DNA test also!