sons and fathers

[oceanna]

sorry if this sounds self-indulgent. My ds (10 months) has recently started needing his father all the time and will only come to me if his father is not in the room. We have both worked from home since ds was born and share all the chores and fun stuff. I feel unreasonably rejected. What's going on?

My dd1 did this for a while. I think kids are quite good at deciding one parent is flavour of the month but it is upsetting - I vividly remember the night she was ill and shouting GO AWAY MUMMY I WANT DADDY. I cried. She cried. Horrid.

My solution was to have another baby, which restored myself to her affections, but I realise that may be a bit drastic for you

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My ds2 (19 months) would much sooner go to his Dad and Grandad than me. So i am third in the pecking order!
At first i felt a bit peeved, but now i take the opportunity to read the paper, or just anything that i dont normaly get time to do.

They all do it. My ds calls his childminder mummy and me daddy etc.

oceanna my ds3 has always been for his father, he is nearly 3 and it is "me and my shadow" as he follows him everywhere
sometimes I feel a little pushed out but I respect that strong bond they both have.
dh loves it btw

Dr Phil says that kids bond most strongly with the same sex parent.

Totally variable IMO: like I say, with us it was cross-gender.

It did get to the point one morning where dd1 was so besotted with Daddy she had to follow him into the bathroom and watch him showering, like David Attenborough contemplating a particularly impressive gorilla.

thanks for the messages, I'm trying not to let my feelings get out of hand but I do find it depressing sometimes.