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I need some help with work relationship

15 replies

Wittsend13 · 03/12/2011 23:37

I felt this is the best place to ask for advise. Apologies if not.

I could really do with some help. I've had to change my name and I can't go into too much detail as could give away who I am as I'm in the middle of a legal war shall we say.

Basically I found out this morning I have to pack up and leave where I am including my job by the end of the week and move abroad. I have had serious issues. I only came back to work a month ago.

My worry is I have to confront my work and I'm scared. I'm not sure how to approach it . I came back to work with promises that I would head up this, that and the other. Only Friday I asked to take on more work as I needed to be extra busy. I have to talk to my HR dept and my manager and tell them I have to leave within the next day or so. I know legally I owe them at least 30 days notice but for legal reasons I cannot do this and I don;t know how to tell them without coming across as unprofessional. I don't want to burn my bridges. I'm sure and hoping work will understand as they know my situation and have been very good.

I have no option other than to go.It's something I don't wish to do but it's something I must do. I feel like I have let my work down who I gave promises to and now I can't furfill them I just feel shitty tbh. Has anyone ever left a company without any notice and left on good terms?

OP posts:
Pantofino · 03/12/2011 23:41

You need to give more info. Normally you are contractually required to work your notice. Why do you have to leave so quickly?

Original poster
Wittsend13 · 03/12/2011 23:54

For legal reasons I can't stay. I have a week to be out of here and if I'm not I could face prison. I can't disclose anything further as I'm unable to edit or delete anything I type on here. Which is a pain in the bum.

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slartybartfast · 04/12/2011 00:00

can you pay a forfeit or go without pay or somethign in order to leave
i think you need to ask in legal or employment matters rather than relationships.

tethersjinglebellend · 04/12/2011 00:03

Will you ever be coming back?

Will you need them as a referee?

Do you have any holiday time owing?

Original poster
Wittsend13 · 04/12/2011 00:05

slartybartfast Yes I didn't even think of them.

tethersjinglebellend No I won't be coming back. I'm devastated. I do have a weeks holiday owed.

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Thistledew · 04/12/2011 00:10

Visa issue? If so, they would be committing an offence to continue to employ you, so your contract of employment is frustrated and cannot be performed by either party.

All you can do is offer them as full an explanation as possible and your apologies.

Bossybritches22 · 04/12/2011 00:10

If you are not coming back & have holiday & wages owing then the worst that can happen is they keep the money owed to you in lieu of notice.

Write a frank, apologetic letter to your boss explaining you have no choice & give it to them asap before home time on Monday.

If you don't leave a forwarding address, they can't get hold of you & if you are not coming back it doesn't matter about a reference does it?

Sounds like you are havng a stressy time, I hope it all works out for you.

tethersjinglebellend · 04/12/2011 00:11

Ok, info on notice periods here

I suppose they key thing is do you need a reference from them? Because if not, there is very little they can do to stop you leaving.

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Wittsend13 · 04/12/2011 00:26

Thistledew lol no I'm born and bred in the UK and legally allowed to work.

Bossybritches22 Thank you. They do have my other address. That's not a problem for them to contact me. They know my situation apart from what's happened yesterday and support me 100% I just feel like a bit of a criminal when I'm not. I've done nothing wrong. As a parent sometimes you have to do things and sacrifice things for them and that's what I'm doing. My children come first. HR will understand this but my boss I fear won't. I guess I just hate having to be a let down to my team and everyone. I will need a reference for a job.

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Original poster
Wittsend13 · 04/12/2011 00:27

tethersjinglebellend Thank you.

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Original poster
Wittsend13 · 05/12/2011 20:37

I thought I would give a small update. I spoke to both my boss and HR and both were very sympathetic and understood fully. Which made me feel so much better. I have asked for my job to be transferred to where I'm going and they said they will discuss it with the head of HR and get back to me. So please keep your fingers crossed I get good news.

Thanks everyone for your replies.

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Bossybritches22 · 05/12/2011 20:41

Oh Wittsend that sounds positive!

Thanks for updating us, & good luck on your move.

Original poster
Wittsend13 · 05/12/2011 21:02

Thanks Bossy. I promise when all this crap is finally over I'll update you all. I get annoyed myself when OP don't do that x

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tethersjinglebellend · 05/12/2011 21:11

Good luck Smile

Bossybritches22 · 05/12/2011 22:51

Xmas Grin We're just all nosey buggers that's all witt but I agree it's nice to know the outcome.

Hope you get sorted in time for some sort of a Christmas & a better year in 2012.

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