This has summed up how i feel completely.

[paranoidandroidwreckmyownlife]

I seem to be listening to Rihanna's We found love on repeat, the narrative at the beginning is so poignant. Makes me cry as i understand the words so well.

It's like you're screaming, and no one can hear
You almost feel ashamed
That someone could be that important
That without them, you feel like nothing
No one will ever understand how much it hurts
You feel hopeless; like nothing can save you
And when it's over, and it's gone
You almost wish that you could have all that bad stuff back
So that you could have the good

That's not very nice icame.

No thats not nice Icame. Sometimes the randomest of songs touch my soul.

Hope your ok OP

Loserface, thanks, that's what I mean.
I'm late 30's thankyou, and have had to seriously think about the last ten years of my marriage. Esp the last 9m when dh seems to have checked out emotionally. Is it worth fighting to save, fighting through the lies, and not feeling cared for.

Move on.
It is possible to have the good stuff without the bad.

Sometimes in life, we do feel down and we start to question things around us...You are the one who needs to make conclusion is it worth it, how big is gap between you and your OH...or is it just that feeling which we do get...I hope that any decision you make, is the right one...10 yrs is a long time, i have been with my DP more than 10yrs+few more, and yes, there were ups and downs, but thanks to God, nothing big or serious that would rock our trust or respect.I know ,random songs can touch soul when you don't even think;just few lines of some songs can touch the sea of emotions...for me few days back was W.Houston (All the man that i need...),some people will say cheesy but my tears just didn't want to stop...lots of hugs

I think if it is at that point, then once you leave (after the initial hideousness) you may well find you are actually much happier and will realise the bad bits just are not worth it. I have been there. I know exactly the feelings you are having and leaving was the best thing. Easier said than done though x