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Anyone's ex seeing the OW that caused the split in the first place??

6 replies

ohwhatasillysong · 02/12/2011 12:57

Wont bore you with all the gory details but DP had an affair with a work colleague (who we were all friends) for over a year... they got found out and both couples subsequently split!

Now THEY are having a relationship together!!!!

We have a son together and Im not happy that she could potentially see my son during this new relationship.

Why should their relationship last if ours didnt???

OP posts:

TooEasilyTempted · 02/12/2011 13:07

Why should their relationship last?

It probably won't. They both know what each other is capable of. The odds are against them.

argghh · 02/12/2011 13:37

Yes mine did and they got married. Its years ago now and its all water under the bridge. Our son saw a bit of her in the the first place but rarely does now he is almost an adult.

I got over it by shagging much better looking men than me ex was

PostBellumBugsy · 02/12/2011 14:16

Mine did & they got married after ex-H and I got divorced. They've been married for over 4 years now. My children with ex-H spend every 2nd weekend at their house. You have to move on. Sounds hard - but there it is.

tokenwoman · 02/12/2011 15:17

my exh is no longer with the OW we spilit over 10 years ago I have only just found out they are no longer together in way I felt quite sad about it as I feel that my boys missed out on a stable family life for something he couldn't resist for something that didn't last and like arghhh I found a much better man than my exh
I dont think you can build a happy life if by doing so you make other people miserable - worth thinking about in tough times
karma will get them eventually but not in the timeframe you want

lettingitallgonow · 02/12/2011 15:23

in some respects I'd want my ex to still be married to the OW, it almost makes me think that because it's worked for him at least my betrayal was worth while.

I didn't think this at the time believe me, but if it was just a short lived relationship they had, I'd be gutted he did all of it for nothing.

SarahBumBarer · 02/12/2011 15:27

So your DP had an affair with a work colleague, you split up and now your ex DP is with the OW. Is it that simple? Not being hard-hearted it is just that your sentence "now THEY are having a relationship together" with 3 !!! makes it sound as if that never happens, whereas of course it does, lots.

Anyway my exH had an affair and is still with OW, they got married a year or two ago. I am also remarried and definitely traded up I'm really just not bothered about them anymore and will they last wont they? Who the hell knows - quite possibly and actually I used to find some of the suggestions on here (MN that is) that such relationships never last a bit upsetting. I used to feel like I was the only woman in the world whose DH had left her for OW and not regretted it (because if you believe what you read on here they will all come to their senses sooner or later).

As I say I don't care. And at least they are not spoiling two families

Sorry if you are having a tough time OP but I don't think there is much you can do about your children seeing her and it probably would not be fair on them to try. It does get so much better.

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