mum has upset and confused me.

[Crawling]

I have been ill for a while dizzy, feint, vomit alot, memory loss, fatigue, numbness and headaches. But although I have been tested nothing showed up. Well a few months ago a test showed that my B12 levels are low. I had another test back and saw my doctor yesturday and she said they are still low and that I need supplements and a re test in 3 months and possible referral.

I came out a little worried and my mum just laughed at me and said I dont eat enough meat. This morning however we argued because she said I dont need the tablets just eat more meat (I eat meat daily) and I said no I am taking the suppliments. She said well if you want to take tablets but be aware you are deluding yourself there is nothing wrong you just need more meat. I snapped the doctor seemed concerned actually and she stormed out.

Her reaction has upset and confused me, I do eat well and I dont drink alcohol and she knows this. She doesnt have a problem with tablets she is always going on about her cholesterol ones and my sisters excema which is fine I just dont get why I am not allowed to be ill if I have a cold I am not allowed to moan but she does. I know this probably seems silly I am not concerned about the low levels if anything happy that it was nothing more serious and is easily treated, but we have had a tough relationship and I thought we were getting on better now. Obviously I wont discuss this with her again.

Exactly - don't discuss it with her again. You are (I presume) an adult and you don't need your mum's approval. Of course it would be nice if she would be more sympathetic but since she isn't, don't get tempted to fall out over it.

Just a point of info - don't you need B12 to help you absorb the protein in meat? I'm not an expert but my Mum has injections as at 91 because I thought the body's ability to absorb nutrients declines with age and its the lack of B12.....possibly not your issue yet OP.

yep this sounds familiar to me too. when i had a chemical pregnancy (ie early MC) when 5weeks pg she said 'well its just a late period isnt it? - in my day yada yada'

your mum obviously is an attention seeker, funnily enough if my mum is poorly (and my sister too which rings with your OP) we all have to down tools and wipe their brows (i dont do it for the record but YSWIM)

agreed, just dont discuss it anymore, i learned that hard lesson with the CP over the summer. I tell her bugger all now

MarthasHarbour I am so sorry to hear about that it must of really hurt during what was a difficult time. Thanks to everyone else as well I have vented and feel better now I will refuse to discuss this anymore with her.

Yes she is a attention seeker, but this may be very important to me and I thought she would care. You see I am diagnosed type 1 bipolar have been having episodes since I was 13 (which of course went unnoticed and is not spoken of except to tell me not to take medication) but B12 anemia can cause a missdiagnosis of bipolar as it can cause mania, pyschosis, and depression so there is a bit of hope that I may not have bipolar at all and the medication for this is much nicer and less likely to relapse. So I am trying not to get my hopes up but I am obviously hoping that the diagnosis is wrong. I need to see my pychiatrist first to discuss this. But for me this is a huge deal and I thought she might show some interest especially as it will mean I may take less attention long term .

Daylilly it has alot functions believe it or not and since looking it up I am amazed at how much it seems to do and is seen more in older people usually I am 24 so they think I have a problem absorbing the vitamin and may need regular injections instead which is why they need to wait and see if my test in 3 months shows an increase or not.

crawling thank you TBH the realisation that i am an adult and dont need my mum to 'wipe my brow' kind of helped (and i am knocking on 40 so you are way ahead of me! )

good luck with your treatment, i have no experience to call on but wish you all the best

May I offer a translation service

There's nothing wrong with you = do not try to deflect attention from ME and MY dramas.

Just eat more meat = Nothing in your life is as important as ME and MY dramas so I am going to trivialise what is wrong with you and talk about ME

After minimizing what was wrong with you she didn't move on to "If you were really ill like ME/ had MY sort of cholesterol levels / had your left leg drop off in ASDA on Wed like ME...?

Funnily enough she does move onto her problems (usually anyway she was in a rush today)how did you guess?
I have a great DP who is very supportive so I can always talk to him.

crawling are you me?

MarthasHarbour I hope you also have someone supportive in your life who you can go to?

Oh yes, like you i have my DH who is wonderful. He completely understands the dynamic and lets me rant at him about it.

TBH she is fine most of the time but if you have a problem, forget it! If i think like that and not go to her with any ishoos then we get along fine.

Leverette
Your mother did not believe your uncle developed cancer from eating frozen rather than fresh vegetables.