Firstly, may I take this opportunity to thank you all for your listening ears in the horrendous first days after I discovered this affair. Thge last few weeks have been up and down, I have now filed for divorce as so many awful revelations have come out in the wash, it is totally untenable for me to stay with this man, although he would like us to get back together. For example, he had told me he wasn't seeing her anymore however I have since discovered that last week, when he told me he was having a week away to get his head straight, he was actually on holiday with the OW. He swore to me before he went that he was going alone. That is just the tip of the iceberg of bullshit and lies I have listened to. My DS aged 4 is coping well, mainly due to the fact we have not argued in front of him (but it is damn hard to hold my tongue to be honest) and I am trying to keep it calm for him. Basically, life has been a bit shit. Can't wait to put this year to bed. My move to Cyprus next Feb is still on, so I am desperately hanging on to that as the start of my new life. Anyway, just thought I would update for anyone that is interested.