How long will I have to keep paying for the mistake of marrying a NARC?

[TheMouseRanUpTheClock]

Arrrgggghhhhh!

I have posted on Chat, as the information is sensitive and I want to to go after 60 days.

Narc exh, he is never going to stop causing problems.

He should be happy in his life and not concentrating on doing nasty things to his children and their mother!

A narcotics agent?
A narcoleptic?
A narcissist?

that made me smile Ecclesvet! and I needed a smile!

Narcissist! not narcoleptic!

Chat thread if you can offer any advice!

Love, you don't have to keep paying. His choice to be a freak, cruel and psychotic, not yours.

There are some excellent help books and stuff available, Youtube has some good videos.

You can't change HIM, but you can change how you react to him. You can protect your DC from his behaviour. Will he ever stop bothering you?

Not really likely, unless he finds another victim, he may drop you all then...

If you read the other thread, he has dropped us, there is zero contact, he is doing this from afar!

Oh, OK, sorry!

In which case the best thing you can do is to soldier on, tell the DC that He's not able to be a daddy like other dads, and that in his way he loves the DC, but can't show it like others.

Can you contact your HV for advice/referral to child psych services in case you need them?

Otherwise, sever all unrestricted ways he has of getting to you and keep it to a format and frequency that YOU can handle.

he has gone, he doesn't get to call the shots anymore.

Hugs chick, you WILL get through this. HE is the defective one, not you.