Sex problems

[melbie]

Sorry have name changed as a bit embarrassed!

I wonder if I could ask some advice? I have been seeing someone for about 4 months. We probably see each other 2-3 times a week. The sex has always been pretty mind blowing and up until a few days ago we would have sex at least twice but usually more when we saw each other (with fairly quick turn around!) He says he loves me, I am head over heels in love with him and every thing seems to be going great.

The problem is that the last 3 times we have seen each other we have had sex once and then he has not been able to perform again. He seems to be turned on by what I am doing but with no result in the trouser department. Now I know that I can hardly complain as the sex is still great the first time and it is a rare man that can go again straight away! I think it is just the sudden change from how it was before that concerns me.

I am very aware that the more I make an issue of it the worse it will get and I don't want him to feel bad about it. He says there is nothing wrong and he is not worried about anything particular but he is not sure why it is happening. I guess I am just worried that there is something behind it and it makes me upset even if I try not to show it to him.

Sooo... any ideas?! Thank you in advance!

Could be the honeymoon period ending, or he could just be having an off-week! Enjoy what you do do, don't worry about what you don't, don't make it into an issue when you are having great sex together.

Maybe he's having more satisfying orgasms which keep him going for more than 5 minutes.

IMO it's not so much the 'honeymoon period' ending as him most probably settling into a deeper and more meaningful relationship with you where he doesn't feel he has to 'prove' himself every time you get together.

As 4aminsomniac says, don't make an issue of it and don't worry about it - it's a rare man who can get it up 3 or 4 times a night every night let alone perform twice without a fair few hours' break in between the act.

with fairly quick turnaround

Do you mean he comes quite quickly? And does he make sure you have had a good time first? Because if not then he is being a bit selfish and no wonder you are still looking for more afterwards.

Maybe you could have a chat about slowing it all down and having one really good session rather than a quickie and another quickie that may or may not happen.

She probably means the time it takes him to be able to orgasm again, having orgasmed already.... refractory period or whatever it's called.

OP it's kind of pressurising when you see someone at certain times and you're both trying to squeeze everything into those times. It would probably be different if you saw each other more often. You only know each other 4 months, which is a short time, so why not concentrate more on the 'getting to know each other better' aspect when you see each other, ie doing stuff together, going out etc. Do you have time to do stuff together when you meet or it is always at night/in the evening?

I think you are getting very good service, John Lewis would be proud.

Thank you everyone- I think you are all right and I am worrying about nothing! I think maybe I was just spoiled in the beginning and we are getting to more normal levels now!'

Much appreciated!