Right, listen up everybody...re-posting Reality's thread because...well because

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...too many women seem to be putting up with sulky, storming-off, sneaky, lazy, tantruming man-babies at the moment

Why?

I think it's traditional. Sadly.

Time of year-like traditional Belle, or just always?

Yeap there does seem to be an awful lot of posts about unhappy women living with sulky unreasonable men

Just always... Nearly every day there's a new thread highlighting some heartbreaking behaviour; nearly every day someone on here finds out that their partner is shagging around; and nearly every day there is someone who knows they should leave but can't/won't.

I blame the patriarchy!

Listen up indeed.

Hear hear.

Etc.

Yup, tis the season it seems

there are lots of women in shit relationships.

but

This is a forum inhabited predominantly by women.

I imagine there are equal amounts of men in shit relationships. Men do not have the monopoly on being arseholes any more than women have the monopoly on being victims.

But we're not going to read about those on here, are we?

Equally people are more likely to post when things are going wrong.

And actually, a few years ago I started a positive thread about my dh and was told that doing so was out of order and insensitive to people going through a hard time.

so I think there is, to an extent, a culture on here of discouraging the good and indulging the bad, if you like.

That does not take away from the fact that some women are in shit relationships.

But I think a bit of perspective is needed as well...

Perspective on what?

Yes of course there is a sampling bias, you hear more about relationships that are bad than those that are good.

Doesn't mean that the advice is not good advice.

as someone 'stuck'(i know im not actually stuck fwiw) in a shitty relationship i like realitys thread.

bump

and a < round of applause >

I imagine there are equal amounts of men in shit relationships. Men do not have the monopoly on being arseholes any more than women have the monopoly on being victims.

hear hear. Going by half the posts on here, I would say there are a lot of men in crap relationships through no fault of their own

Yes, I expect there are a lot of men in crap relationships, and if I were on a men's relationships board I would repost Reality's advice there too.

But even when some admit to being the cause of the crap relationship there are far too many here who will always turn it around to lay the blame at the man's door regardless, and that is less than helpful as it sends a message of absolution of any form of responsibility to the poster by making them believe they are not in the wrong.
Now that's sure to get a few people here flapping and a few more accusations flying!

Yes, AA, I hope the menz would follow the advice too

Now have you any more nuggets of wisdom you'd like to share ?

FWIW, there is a female bias on this site, since it mainly populated by females

but unless you are only seeing what you want to see, women do not always given the whole benefit of the doubt

there is a current thread going right now, where the woman is being told her own behaviour is directly causing the problems in her relationship

that doesn't fit your argument though, so let's gloss over that, shall we ?