I'm such a fucking fuck up....

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I feel so :( I have ditched the bloke who I thought I was going to marry, all because I let something get to me without speaking about it.....

He won't have me back and I miss him soooo much, I hurt him too badly :( what a fucking mess, I wish I could re-wind time and undo what I said......

When did this happen? If it is very recently, give him a bit of space, and hopefully he will soften a bit and not want to hurt you, because that is probably what he is doing now, because you hurt him.

We have spoke about it an he says no, we have been split just over a week, I'm heartbroken and can't see a way forward :(

he says he loves me and misses me but says I have smashed the trust he had in me by splitting with him, I don't think he will ever take me back......he also says he never goes back to an ex...thanks for the replies ladies

A week really is very early days. Give him some space... go out with your mates (not where he is likely to be or he will just feel stalked).. or just perhaps go in there for one drink with your friends if it is a local place that you and all your friends always drink in, then go off somewhere else.

If he thinks you are sat at home pining and crying he will keep you dangling... he is getting his own back at the moment because he is angry.

What was the issue you split up over?

squeaky that's what I need to do, I'm normally such a strong person, this has really knocked me for 6

His DD, but looking back it was an issue that could have been resolved quite easily but no I had to go like a bull in a fucking china shop and blow up over it.....

Maybe it was a sign you just weren't ready. It's easy to say it could have been easily sorted out, but you don't know how the talk would have gone.

bertie I would like to think it has happened for a reason and in a few weeks it'll seem better but for now, I'm just so unhappy I can't think straight :(

Oh I know, it's really awful when you're in the middle of it :( I'm sorry. Do you have any friends who could come over to share a bottle of wine or something?

bertie nope, I don't have any close friends that's a different story though, just me on my own and my DS is in bed, I might take myself off to bed, thanks for your advice

good advice here. I have never forgotten one guy telling me that men HATE being dumped....their egos are so fragile. So he is probably getting a bit of satisfaction that you are obviously hurting.

So do give him space...no contact at all for a while....give it a good few weeks. He knows you are upset and still care about him because of the way you reacted. So if it was meant to be he will be in touch.

Things happen for a reason....you wouldn't have reacted to whatever it was unless there was a good reason (trust your instincts.)

Wasn't this the guy who you dumped because you disagreed with his parenting of his 'horrible' 3 year old?

Yes buzz you're right, looking back its a totally resolvable issue, just needed to be spoken about, he sees me POV but because I ditched him he says he can't trust me to do that again, which I suppose is fair enough, doesn't stop me from thinking I've fucked up big time cause I love him deeply and would like to move forward but he can't bring himself to........

From what you said on here- it didn't sound resolvable. It sounds like you could have smoothed it over short term and it might have appeared resolved. But you disagreed with his parenting and don't like his daughter- how is that ever going to work?

It's bound to be painful as you still love him