This is my first post although I have been lurking since June. I confronted my (ex? - don't know how it will go) H about the affair he had been having for 14 months in May this year. Things have been pretty bad since then. We separated over the summer. Recently, though, we may be at a point where we might be reconnecting. And are, albeit with difficulty, living in the same house. He has always said that it is us (we have two teenage DCs) he wants to be with - OW was always only a fantasy, but that is another story.
This post is to thank posters (a special thanks to WWIFN) for saving my sanity (and maybe my marriage). It is through your comments that I have come to think of behaviours that I have accepted as normal - or even my fault - as being completely unacceptable - or rather behaviours that I have no need and certainly no intention of accepting any longer.
Those of us recovering - whatever road you have chosen - please check in again. There is strength in numbers