It's course time again so dh is being delightfuk

[neepsntatties]

I've posted about this before. I am doing a post grad that involves being away for 8 weekends over the year. It is important to me. My dh is horrible everytime I go. I think to him I am just his childcare.

This time it feels worse as I am also unwell. Last week I stayed off work and had childcare lined up. Dh told me to cancel it as he would look after the baby only to go off to do some jobs saying that I was fine. I don't think he cares about me at all sometimes.

Anyway no one to talk to so I post here.

Bloody hell, neeps, you've got my sympathy. Awful.

Your DH, onthe other hand, does not have my sympathy, but (and sorry if this has been answered on other threads), does he really struggle when he has to look after DC?

It sounds like totally childish insecurity on his part, but if there's some way to make these weekends less scary for the poor dear (him), then that can only help you, no?

It's dreadful being put upon and nagged at like that when you've got a demanding and important few days - especially when you're unwell into the bargain.

Hiya!
Not seen your previous posts, but was annoyed at your situation so had to reply. 8 weekends over the year is not ridiculous, esp if it's for a good cause (bettering yourself), and it does sound like he's either pissed off the babysitter won't be around, or he's threatened at you doing something without him!
Have you had this conversation with him? Beginning "why do you resent me doing something that's SO important to me?" I know you have children, but that does NOT stop you being yourself and improving your circumstances.

Someone more coherent with more experience will be along soon, I'm sure!
xx

He has 'things to do'. He is building our extension which is obviously important but seems to think I should give up all things. I already gave up my two exercise classes to free him up. We have had problems with childcare which he seems to view as my fault.

I did ask him ages ago why he wasn't happy for me as the course was not easy to get on to. He said it's the wrong time but I know there won't be a right time.

Everytime it comes up I feel awful. I feel guilty for leaving the kids and I know I will have to deal with these moods before and after.