Endings

[FedUpCantKickoff]

im getting divorced. He was abusive / controlling / didn't do much to help. I was miserable. Took me ages to see what the problem was.
Anyway the bottom line is, despite all of this, I feel rather devastated that the marriage is over. My head is all over the place I'm up and down, been I'll for a month, keep getting v. Weepy.
Yesterday I started reading about Virginia Woolf. I've got some close male friends, but I keep getting weepy around them. Also am quite brutal to anyone who shows any kind of interest in me. Other than these two emotional f**kheads that I'm friend's with.
The trouble is that the way I'm feeling, I'm worried that I'm going to end up doing something stupid like sleeping with someone just because I feel all over the place and I really don't want that to happen. I know it will just make things worse.
Help.

ill not I'll

There are worse things than sleeping with someone because you feel all over the place - such as having a shag with someone in the belief that it's going to take away the hurt or miraculously make you feel 'together' again.

Time heals and all you can do until your wounds are healed is to keep taking deep breaths while thinking 'this too must pass' and, honestly, it wiil. You'll get through this and be stronger for it.

Be kind to yourself and start looking to expand your social horizons so that you don't have to mix with emotional f**kheads.

As someone who is 4 Months on from ending a crap relationship, its been hard and sad and scary but now it feels like I did a really good thing and as if I'm starting to live again. Pushing myself to do stuff I enjoy plus writing down my feelings and reflections have helped.

I'm sure you will recover soon. Be kind and be patient with yourself