Do emotional abusers know they are doing it?

[moobrain]

Just wondering whether an emotional abuser is aware and planning to say what they say, or whether they are not even aware that they are doing it or it is a subconscious thing?

I think an 'I'm not tolerating your crap anymore' example.

Have you discussed what his constant put-downs do to you? And if you have, what is his response?

He's treating you with total disrespect, and if he won't stop, then I think you'd be better off out of the relationship and the children too. Constant sniping and a worn-away mother doesn't make for a good family environment.