Checking in on all members of The Heartbreak Club

[Punkatheart]

Women who are left to pick up the pieces when their cowardly partners leave....I just want to check how everyone is doing....

Here, things have gone from sad, to pretty angry. I trying to stitch my life back together but there is absolutely no give on his part. 'You underestimate how much I love you, but I have to move on...we have lost what we had...' Blah blah blah. He does indeed sound depressed...his daughter still doesn't want to know him etc etc

Good news: applying to be part of the Vodaphone Make a Difference campaign....it's two months work and some of it could be at home...so ideal for my health situation. Wrote a play, joined a playwright group....trying to keep busy so that I cannot hear the rattle of my broken heart.

So come on ladies - good and bad. Share.

So...does that everyone is fine...oh I do hope so...

Punkatheart didn't want to leave your post unanswered.

Can't quite join your group as I havenn't separated yet from H and I would be the one to walk out anyway....
However I can relate to what you said. The broken heart and the looking at him and seeing how bad they are too.
It does hurt and it does heal too, eventually.

My heart is fairly well mended now. ex-H left me & DCs over 8 years ago. It is grim, but it gets soooooooooooooooooooooo much better. Hang on in there, hearts mend - you will be happy again.

Hi Punk glad to see you are doing OK there, keeping busy is always a great idea, it's helped me no end.

I'm pretty much on the up all the time now, my 'wobbles' are getting fewer and fewer and far less intense. It's been seven months now so taken a while to get to this point, but I've been feeling a lot better since roughly the six month point.

Only thing is I can still have trouble sleeping without medication, the longer I go without it the worse my sleeping gets, but insomnia has always been an issue on and off for me so not strictly related to the break up.

Hi Punk - I posted on here a couple of times really just supporting people. But I am 3 months into separation and again this eve tried to get ex to commit to try and work things out and not throw away 24 yrs of marriage. Phrases like: "already caused too much damage", "uneven playing field", "do not feel romantically inclined towards you anymore" type crap kept coming back at me. So nothing has moved on in 3 months. I have however, grown stronger. I can talk about it to people now without bursting into tears. I have an alternative plan for the very near future with regards to the house, and I have stated talking to guys online and made a new single girlfriend. So that is progress - on my part at least.....Julesx

Lovely to see you all. Sorry to hear about the insomnia, lubey. Traveller - it sounds as if things are very much still in limbo for you....wishing you luck. Bugsy...you sound strong. Well done you.

Oh JALG - those bloody cliches are so infuriating. I have had the 'I love you, but I have to move on' bollocks. Silly sods...they just see life in such simple terms and do not realise that a long relationship has a different dynamic. But I'm sorry - like me, you sound as if you still love your OH....

Hugs to all. Onwards and upwards, ladies!

God this is an old old thread but how is everyone doing. I never found anyone else and as terrible as my ex P has behaved, I will sadly always love it. I feel like a character in Eastenders: 'But I looooooooove 'im!'