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Had a bust up!

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Somanykiddies · 04/01/2006 12:25

Didn't talk all day yesterday even though dd1's birthday. He went off to work today, sent some 'I feel sorry for myself' texts and said would call, that was hour and a half ago. I am steaming and if it wasn't for the 'my new bloke has a small willy' thread I would be manic. Feel the need to sent a bit of a cutting text in the vein of ' you are obviously too busy to sort our relationship out, don't bother' but need better wording, any takers?

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NotActuallyAMum · 04/01/2006 12:50

Personally I would stick to what you said - sounds perfect to me, specially as he could only be bothered to send 'feel sorry for myself' texts to you

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Somanykiddies · 04/01/2006 13:36

Thanks for the reply NAAM, still hasn't called not sure what to do now except polish off the Christmas chocolates!

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Amateurpsych · 04/01/2006 13:42

What was your row about?

heavenis · 04/01/2006 13:43

Send him a text
"Could you check the with phone company that our phone is working cos your call hasn't come through yet"

PomPomFeathers · 04/01/2006 13:46

Send him a one word text, something like:-
WELL

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Somanykiddies · 04/01/2006 13:48

I'd sensed something was wrong and kept asking him, he kept saying all was ok until bedtime when he just went off about the children. He's done this before where he says everything is ok but then goes off on one, makes me feel really uneasy. Doesn't sound much I know but why can't he just be up front? We've been through a lifetime of grief in the last 18 months and thought we were really together, just feel he has set us back by months! Have drafted a text saying that I hope the reason he hasn't called is that he is on his way home to sort this out (highly unlikely though) and not that he is too busy or has forgotton. Not sure wether to send.

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Normsnockers · 04/01/2006 13:51

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Somanykiddies · 04/01/2006 13:52

Way I feel, he can stay in his bloody cave! If he upsets me it's always me that ends up bolstering him up, he sent text this morning saying although Im no good for you I really do love you! AAAARRRRGGG!!

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Somanykiddies · 04/01/2006 13:54

And he's just had time to pick up his personal e-mails at work!

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NotQuiteCockney · 04/01/2006 14:04

Hmm, I understand you being frustrated and annoyed. But is a phone call from work really the time to have this out?

Better to leave it, and sort it out when he's home, in person.

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Somanykiddies · 04/01/2006 14:10

He will be home late tonight, off early in am so won't really see him properly till Friday am. He's the boss so could realistically come home early if he wanted.

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Somanykiddies · 04/01/2006 14:39

Ok, so sent text saying sorry you are too busy or have forgotton to call, maybe we can talk on Friday, his reply, sorry! Grrrrr, so what can I do tomorrow as I am all on my lonesome to cheer myself up, suggestions please?

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NotActuallyAMum · 04/01/2006 15:29

Come on here and we'll make you laugh

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Somanykiddies · 04/01/2006 15:40

You lot are mad! Have pmsl at the little willy thread!

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NotActuallyAMum · 04/01/2006 15:58

Me too and I'll own up to looking at the palm of my hand to see how big it was....

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Somanykiddies · 04/01/2006 16:18

Steady on girl, could be a lot of paranoid blokes out there tonight!

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NotActuallyAMum · 05/01/2006 10:34

How are you SMK?

Have you heard from him?

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Somanykiddies · 05/01/2006 11:29

Hi NAAM, he didn't call or come home last night which was obviously planned but didn't tell me! Had to text him though coz DD1 was poorly last night and he did send a good night text but blowed if I'm gonna ask him if he's coming home tonight, got my stubborn head on today!

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NotActuallyAMum · 05/01/2006 11:59

Don't blame you, I wouldn't either - I'm stubborn too. And if it was me and he does come home tonight, when he walks in I'd say "Oh you're here, I was going out tonight....."

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Somanykiddies · 05/01/2006 12:19

Will bear that one in mind NAAM! Seriously though I'm sure we will be okay, always pull together when DD ill.

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Yummymummy24 · 05/01/2006 12:47

i would soooo go out and forget about him, get on with your life make him feel like youre too busy for him and see how he likes it. aren't they annoying??? but you gotta love the poor creatures!!!!

Radley · 05/01/2006 12:50

Does he make a habit of staying out all night?

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Somanykiddies · 05/01/2006 13:02

Only stayed overnight coz gone to work in London for couple of days but normally comes home in between, think he is making a point or trying to! Can't go out coz dd poorly!

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Yummymummy24 · 06/01/2006 23:06

Hey there whats happened with dh? Are you his friend again?

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Somanykiddies · 07/01/2006 17:51

Yeah, came home v late thurs pm and we are buddies again!

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