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Reading list please

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cameltoeinlycra · 16/11/2011 15:55

I need a reading list for a young adult (20). She lives at home with an alcoholic parent, who is very abusive and aggressive, sober as well as drunk.

She knows that in order for her to live a 'normal' life she needs to leave and begin to live independently from her parent, which hopefully is something that will be happening after christmas, if everyting falls into place.

She needs help though with understanding the dynamics of the relationship with her parent, as she has difficulty in seeing the relationship for what it is. Destructive! She feels responsible for the situation and has been told by some that 'If she leaves her mother will relapse', 'to live her life according to her parents irrational demands', something which is having a very detrimental effect on her emotional and mental health.

I am hoping I can find some reading material that she can digest at her lesuire that will help to give her the strength and courage to do what she wants to do with her life, knowing that there will be no approval from her parent. I and my daughter are giving her as much support and help as she is willing to accept but accept we have our limitations mainly due to the emotional attachment with both have with her.

If you could give me a recommended reading list that I could either suggest to her or get them myself to give to her, I and she (probably) would be grateful.

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CaipirinhasAllRound · 16/11/2011 16:48

What about Eay Pray Love?
It isn't relevant to the particular issue but is a book about a woman who takes control of her life and does the things she loves

Fairenuff · 16/11/2011 16:49

Not able to help, but am just bumping this for you in the hope that someone will come along with some good suggestions . . .

ItsMeAndMyPuppyNow · 16/11/2011 17:09

Websites are free and plentiful. For example:

Adult Children of Alcoholics
Out of the FOG
Al-Anon/Alateen

A couple books that deal with all forms of child abuse, including alcoholism:

Toxic Parents
Adult children

cameltoeinlycra · 16/11/2011 17:45

Thanks for the bump and suggestions, I'm bookmarking the sites so I can email them if she wnat s to read and I'll hunt the books.

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