married to a workaholic...

[cocoloco11]

Hi,
Just having a moan really but anyone else married to a workaholic? My husband is a workaholic and yes it provides us with a very comfortable life where we dont have to worry about money but i just find it really hard that we dont spend much quality time together...and that's what i got married for not the lifestyle. He goes to work mega early and although he gets home at a reasonable hour about 7 he then works all night at home too. At weekend we do do things but he is tired out so mostly just chilling. To make matters more tricky we have a young baby so can't even go out the odd evening to spend time together (not that he would cos he's always 'too tired')
I know its not forever as he's making hay while the sun shines so to speak but i just feel we don't really have a relationship as we spend such little time together. Anyone else????

Hmmm, well my DH is a workaholic but I wouldn't say he is emotionally unavailable.

We talk a lot and he will always talk to the kids at bedtime. He also tries to come home for bedtime and then go back to work (luckily he works close by), he has breakfast with the kids every morning and tries to take DS to school. So he invariably sees them once during the day. And then at weekends he devotes all his free time to us, however much or little.

He loves his job luckily but I never feel second fiddle to it. But then I knew what he was like when I married him.

Only the OP knows if this is masking other issues but I don't think that all marriages involving workaholics are doomed to failure

I am too, he works until he makes himself dizzy sometimes. He is a nightmare if he doesn't work through worrying about not working and then will also do hobbies like gym or cycling instead. He's been like this for the 20 years I've known him and I have my own life so it seems to work quite well for us [possibly deluded emoticon]!

Everybody, are you married to the deputy PM?

Bleeeeurgh - thankfully not!