Do I wait for him to ask?

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Been with DP for a year and a half now. Both had DCs, and we're making plans to move in together next summer :)

We've discussed marriage in very general terms - he knows I'd like to at some point, he doesn't seem opposed.

Do I wait for him to propose? Hoping for some romantic occasion...! Or do I bring it up for discussion, as one of many things we need to talk about?

For info - He was divorced for a year or so before I met him. I was never married to my ex.

I had been going out with then bf for over 4 years. Whenever anyone got engaged he said, "another one bites the dust". Anyway, I was pretty sure it was long term, living tog, bought house etc....I had to go away with work for a few weeks, and left him a letter saying he needed to think about the future, and were we going to be together...etc. I wanted him to do the proposing!

3 weeks after I got home he proposed. And now we've been married over 10 years!

ImJustABloke but ... 1.5yrs isn't really that long is it? I'd say just wait it out, there's no rush is there? Most of my friends (myself included) proposed around the 3yr mark.

I'm planning on asking my DP on 29th Feb 2012! We've been together roughly the same amount of time as you and your DP. We're also expecting our first in June. So it will be an exciting year. Doesn't matter how long you've been together, you just know when you've met the one. I have know idea how I'm going to go about it though!

Would you prefer to ask him or for him to ask you, Mango? Didn't it come up when you were planning a baby together?

I asked DH while we were washing up. Didnt wait for leap year it just seemed like a good question given that we were buying a house together.

We have now been married for more than 20 years.

Imperial - I honestly haven't thought about him asking me, maybe he would prefer to be more traditional. But I'm going to risk it an wish for the best! Baby wasn't planned and we only found out a month ago. It's come to that time in his life when all his close mates are either getting engaged or married. I'd want a long engagement anyway so not to rush the wedding to to secure the deal in the long run

Why don't you mention a woman at work who asked her boyfriend to marry him and see what your partner says, Mango? He might say, "Oh I'd hate that" and it would save you from intense embarrassment!

ImperialBlether - that might be a plan!