Sadly inevitable I suppose that now we are all approaching 40, that amongst my friends there are a few relationships in bother and one couple has just split . But this is whole new territory for us all and I don't know how we as friends are supposed to respond when a longstanding relationship ends, with people who've been part of a big group. Any ideas and experience would be very welcome please, from any side of the fence.
For example, do recently split people want to socialise together? Do they want to be invited to everything that the "group" is doing and decide together which will attend, or agree they both will, or whoever has the dc that weekend will go if it's a thing with kids etc etc?
Obviously it depends on how acrimonious things are, but where there is a split with sadness but not outright anger as it were, is it still likely you'd want to be in the same room as your very recent X, having drinks and conversation?
As a group of friends with busy lives when we get together we obviously chat a lot about what's happening in everyone's life ... how does that work if both ex partners are there? Or just ignore that whole elephant in the room - seems awkward!
But I would hate to leave out one partner - we have known one much longer than the other and it's fairly inevitable that one person would be more sidelined than the other over the long term - which seems awful.
Rotten time for them and want to help them. Will try and feel my way in asking them how they see it working, but they've clearly got a lot of other stuff on their plates right now so don't want to add to the burden.
Sorry this was so long!
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How does it work when your friends split up?
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DestinationUnknown · 15/11/2011 21:04
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