My relationship is falling apart

[LittleMissSmall]

I don't appear to be able to stop it.

I admit I am a control freak and feeling out of control is not good at the best of times but I can't seem to fix it. I am out of control and I am watching my relationship fall apart. I don't know what to do or what to say or how to fix it.

In a pickle!
Ive been married for nearly 7 years, but been together for 9.5, i've got 3 beautiful children, and i am bored! i work full time, so does dh, we get in, he gets his dressing gown and slippers, and enjoys sitting in front of the t.v all evening, whilst I on the other hand go to the gym, swimming, shopping etc.
In september last year my life was turned upside down by a particular man who shows me love, affection, has more in common with me than my husband, talks to me whenever possible, every day, whereas i dont speak to dh through the day, or evening come to mention it!
This is where it gets a bit messy. He's the husband of my ex-best friend, who should be emigrating to Oz in the summer. He has withdrawn his application to emigrate to be with me, and will stop at nothing until he has me and my 3 kids under his roof. I love him dearly, dh hasn't a clue whats going on. how the hell do I deal with this????

alli - do you want to leave you rhusband - does he know your pissed off and bored?