MIL thinks DP and I are sex crazed and don't have a clue about contraception!

[sweetkitty]

When MIL was here at Christmas she kept making comments about me keeping away from DP in the future and that DP needs some condoms. This really annoyed me. DD was 9 months when we decided to ttc baby no2 of course we thought it would take a while but I got pregnant at the very first attempt (first time not using contraception after DD was born) everyone assumes that baby no 2 is an accident.

DP have been together for 9 years and managed to control ourselves and not have any babies until we wanted them, we are both in our 30s now so why do people (especially MIL and my DM) feel the need to remind us to use contraception after baby no 2 is born just in case we get pregnant again, ffs we are only on baby no 2 not no 6!

Sorry rant over but it's really annoying when your just about to give birth to your second (planned) baby and everyone is going on about you not getting pregnant again argh!

Ahh parents will always stick their oar in. My mother came to visit me after I'd had dd2 (about three hours since I'd given birth). Whilst looking at dd2 she asked me 'sooo how many will you have four five...???' Considering that this was my second child I can only conclude that my mother's maths is severely lacking....

Either ignore your mil or sit down with your respective mothers and tell them in the nicest possible manner to mind their own business.

Bloody hell, whatever happened to English reserve?

The idea of a MIL discussing contraception - I've come over all faint...

how rude and vulgar to discuss your contraceptive arrangements. Tell her to mind her own business.

My fcking FIL came over streaming with cold. We have a three week old baby, ffs! He gave his fcking miserable cold to DD1, who is 2. She refuses to take any medication and is consequently miserable.

Happy f*cking New Year, FIL!

I'd rather they'd give us contraception advise.

I think my response would have been something like "But MIL, we've only done it twice ... we only do it for procreation purposes, didn't you?"

My MIL is a devout Catholic so contraception advice isn't something she'd give, however she gave me blow by blow accounts of her birth experiences after I had dd and then again after I had ds. Obviously her experiences were the worst types and she had all her children very close together and doesn't know how she managed -young woman today are so lucky (?) etc, yawn and yawn again!!!! I can't wait till I'm a MIL and can bore my dil on the day she gives birth!

after you have baby and next time you expect both your mums, before they get there go buy a really really big box of some odd and kinky condoms (i dont know.. maybe super duper huge and coloured and edible - not sure if they do this) and leave the empty box on the kitchen table!

anything to shut them up you poor love!!!

We also (deliberately) concieved DS2 when DS1 was only 9 months and everyone assumes he was an accident too - it upset me quite a lot when i was pregnant!

for you expat

MIL is also a devout Catholic but has given up on me and my illegitimate, unchristened children.

When we announced we were pregnant with no 2 she told her son to contain himself to which I answered "who said it was him that couldn't contain himself?" she was horrified!

oh yea why are MILs birth stories always horrendous, apparently DP only slept for ONE hour a day until he was five (yea right he would be dead if that were the case)!

My MIL tells horrendous birth stories too - apparently she was in labour for three weeks, and dh had the biggest head in the history of mankind so giving birth to him was worse for her than it's ever been for anyone else in the world. She's another one who does the "I don't know how I coped^" bit, and tells me that all modern mums have it easy and don't know what motherhood is really about.

What is it about pregnancy/childbirth that makes random people (and I include my in-laws in that) think they can stick their oversized noses in? dh and I conceived on the first month of not using contraceptives. It just so happened that that was as soon as we'd got married - we'd been a bit worried as my dsis had big problems TTC. Suddenly inlaws and others seem to think we're a) at it like rabbits and b) really unfortunate not to have "enjoyed married life a bit first" (direct quote!).
Well, actually, we've known each other since we were 14, had lived together for 4 years before marrying and had nearly 10 months of married life before ds appeared. And he, by the way, made our life complete, not got in the way of married life!
Grrrr

And SK, if dd was 9 months when you conceived then she will be 1 1/2 when the baby is born, which isn't that small a gap! Had mil had too much sherry??

My DD is just 10 months old and MIL wants to know when am I going to get pregnant again and were we using any contraception, and if we were what were we using - UGH UGH UGH

had to remind her that it took us 6 years to have DD and she doesn't know this (can't tell her as she'll blow it up into something it isn't) we need assistance to get pregnant, so sat there gobsmacked boxing day, then to top it off asked if we were having sex regularly

Apparently 2Happy I was to wait the designated 2 years before ttc baby no 2 according to MIL and DM. And of course I was to have a boy therefore completing my ideal family and not having anymore.

I'm delighted to be having 2 beautiful girls 18 months apart why does everyone else think I'm mad?

madrose

just ask her about her sex life ....

Good idea Twig. How on earth is this her business?!!

when she looks shocked say 'Oh I thought you wanted to discuss sex because you are happy telling us what to do'

Ugh SK, I hope they live a looong way from you so you don't have to see them often! Mine were shocked when I told them I wanted more kids too; even though I never put a time frame on it you'd think I'd sh@*ged dh there in front of them the looks on their faces!

I liked the condoms on the table idea

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the age gap is the exact same gap as my dsis and she is coping just fine! Ignore the old bag

she is obviously concerned as is your mother for not only your wellbeing but the wellbeing of the family as a whole.

she is obviously concerned as is your mother for not only your wellbeing but the wellbeing of the family as a whole.

Hehe, this thread has made me laugh. After dd was born my gran advised me get dh "seen to"! She was trying to be helpful bless her as dd wasn't planned and finding out came as a bit of a shock just before my wedding! I always said I didn't want children (changed a LOT now I've got my sweet one!) so she thought she'd offer some advice to make sure I didn't have any more.
Families are strange aren't they?

• how astoundingly rude your MIL is! I would actually wonder if she was quite right in the head. Asking your DIL if she has enough condoms is NOT appropriate behaviour by any standards. Does she also stand on street corners barking like a dog?