Anyone survived an affair?

[barmybird]

Simple question- If so how?

Husband trying to convince me to try again but I'm extremely wary.

How did you or are you making it work?

hope it goes well - be strong & remember HE is the one to be convincing you its worth fighting for

logging off now but will check in tomorrow

[[hugs]]

Well that went well! he continued to tell me I needed to convince him that I could change! and that he would change when he saw this.

Afraid he got the sharp end of my tongue (which he's not used to).

I will be pursuing the divorce tomorrow. Feel very sad and angry. Arrogant s..t. I need to change! it was him in bed with another woman

ah barmybird, i'm sorry he is such an ar*e.

if only our hearts agreed with our heads huh?

housewarming sounds lovely.... too far away

f! what you said about him saying you need to change before he will - de ja vu! f!!! (are we sure we are not married to the same guy living two lives in two different countries?????) reassure me here! he's not a 6 foot 4, 200kg maori?

my thoughts are with you today, i hope you find the strength you need xxxx

So sorry to hear your stories. I arrived in US for us to start our great new life to discover that DH had been having an affair for a year, physical side for less with his new colleague. Gutted to say the least. Giving him another chance as I decided why should I and two small ds's suffer because of what he did. But he's given me big guilt trip of being my fault he went elsewhere - Im opiniated, don't listen, don't want sex. Um let me see, he's been travelling for a year I'm a SAHM with two children now 4 and 2 1/2. I'm still mad as hell and still don't trust him, but hoping it will get better. If not I'll move on to be happy again. Sorry life's been so hard I can only imagine your emotions.

alipiggie - i hope your ok. are you still in the US?

Hi Gravity. Yes I'm still in the US. I love it over here, great outdoor life and people are super friendly. Thought it'd be less stressful than before, ha ha how wrong was I. As he's away at the moment in Israel am sitting here trying not to think about him contacting her. Sure he's spoken to her he's her boss. Doesn't make for a great start for us re-building does it. Sometimes wonder if I've made the right decision, but it has to be for our boys. Thanks for your concern. Mumsnet is great for support I can see that for all the help other mums get