What on earth do I do?

[MrsAliceHolt]

So - I think DH and a colleague have an inappropriately close friendship. I've been checking his phone and am certain there's deleting going on. Last night however when he was asleep, I checked his phone again and found a text saying he's transferred money into her account and she's to buy jewellery or pearls with it "no dodgy internet deals". Her reply is "Boss! We need to talk about this tomorrow" and his to that is "No we don't".

She's getting married in a couple of weeks and then she's leaving and moving to the other side of the world (where her fiance is working) for at least a couple of years.

He's been the same with me as usual, and I've been trying to think of a rational explanation other than the obvious. What do I do? Do I ask? I'm worried about revealing I've been checking his texts in case I just alert him and would get more info by waiting. (I did forward those texts to my phone though.)

He's her boss, she's getting married, he's buying her a present or giving her the money to do it for herself. If she's going away for a couple of years it may well be a leaving present.

Whatever this friendship is, or how close it is, it's going to be over very shortly. Doesn't sound that bad to me, unless he's never bought you jewellery in which case ...

Ask him. I never see the point in waiting for more info, it won't assuade your suspicions.

from what you have said so far I don't see a problem. He's giving her money for a wedding gift, surely?

What made you think the friendship was inappropriately close?

Op doesn't say he is her boss tho

Confront him and see what he says.

What prompted you to check his phone?
I'd be pretty unhappy if anyone did that to me

Just ask him. You will drive yourself insane with the 'what ifs?'

I think DH and a colleague have an inappropriately close friendship. - is he her boss?

Chances are it's a leaving gift. Don't read too much into until you've asked him.

Thing is, what made you check his phone in the first place? Why did you feel you had to do that?

Oh . Doesn't sound good to me you have to ask. It could be very innocent but it doesn't sound it. If you suspect he is cheating then i think you have every right to check his phone.