I have two little boys with my DP and I'm 10 weeks pregnant.
I just spent a weekend at my mums because of all the bad feeling and arguing with DP.
I came back today, I've been very nice and affectionate with DP but I did mention how he'd only applied for one job in two years and we won't get married while he's unemployed, because I'm embarrased. I want to have a better life with him and to respect him more but he just will not work.
Later I mentioned how he really needs to bath, it's been over a week and he smells like stale sweat, I said I'm so sorry to bring it up, but I just wish he'd take responsibility for his hygiene. He said well I could be more tactful as he thought I'd been rude. The most offensive thing I'd said was that he smells like stale sweat which he does, and I shouldnt have to remind him to bath all the time.
Bedtime come, I read the boys a story and put them to bed.
For some reason I mentioned how he only puts the boys to bed about once a week.
He said well at least he doesnt go fucking around (in front of the kids) I keep asking him please don't swear near them.
I said I've been to my mums, he said 'yeah right, and what was you doing the rest of the time'.
Bassically accused me of cheating on him. I've never cheated on him, buit he keeps saying I do.
Then he said he's leaving me anyway and he went to bed, when I was finished putting the boys to bed and sorting the dogs out I went to bed.
I woke him and asked him why he said I'd been fucking around, he's basically saying I'm a slut by saying that and it's really hurtful, I'm carrying his baby I wish he'd respect me more.
He said well I could be for all he knows.
I asked if he was really leaving me, he said yes, and went back to sleep.
I started crying (I rarely cry, and I couldn't stop, because I jusst don't know what to do being pregnant to him and it doesnt seem like he loves me anymore and I don't know if I'll cope with another baby if he leaves)
I tried to put his arms around me, he woke up and said 'there there its okay'.
and I was sobbing.
Then he got angry and said for fucks sake he cant get back to sleep now and turned over.
I left the room, and went downstairs and have been crying like I havent done for years, because I'm actually considering abortion because the situation is so bad, but I don't think I'd forgive myself.
I'm been hyperventilating and ended up crying loudly, he didn't even come down.
What should I do?
Some facts;
My older child isn't his, my younger one he's cared for since birth, but isnt biologically his.
and I can't stay at my mums for more than a few days.