DH & I have been married nearly 20 years and are happy together, with our 5 year old DD. I feel I must let on that we have a non-existant sex-life, which has bothered me at times, but we show affection in other ways & it's not the end of the world when I consider all the good things we have in our lives. When we came back from holiday this year he had a terrible cold & cough, so we decided I should sleep in the spare room. That was at the end of August and I am still in there! The thing is we sleep better separately. I am a very light sleeper and he is a snorer. I get very ratty when I am tired and this obviously affects our relationship far more than sleeping in seperate rooms. It feels silly writing this, as the answer seems clear as I'm typing but I always feel it is a big secret that we are sleeping in different rooms. Don't even know what I'm asking advice for really! I suppose I just want others to tell me it's fine to sleep separately & that someone else does it too!