My ds told me my dh doesn't like me

[slipperandpjsmum]

Last night I was reading my ds his bedtime story part way through he said do you know some people don't like you, don't they I said, no daddy doesn't like you he shouts at you all the time.

I carried on reading the story. He is 3 and maybe it was just an off cuff comment but it has upset me and I keep thinking about it. To be honest I feel like he doesn't really like me either. He is often quite sharp and I feel like I spend alot of my time trying to do things to stop an argument.

Any advice? I am feeling bruised

Listen to your child.
If your 3yo has been able to understand that your H isn't nice to you and doesn't like you, then either
1- he has overheard his dad saying that to someone else
2- he has seen things that showed him his dad doesn't like you.

I would take a very close to your relationship.

Sorry about it :(

I'd tell DH what he said. It might shock him into thinking about how he treats and speaks to you. It's easy to fall into bad habits of snapping at your OH all the time and maybe this would be a wake up call for him - he's setting your DS a bad example.

Yep you can try that too. He might be horrified by it and do his outmost to change things.

What traveller says.

Well, I don't know whether you should tell him at this point. Do you find you are walking on eggshells at home? Does he belittle you when he shouts at you? Are you happier when he's out of the house? Does he show he dislikes you in other ways, such as sneering or rolling his eyes when he talks to you.

You should never live with someone who dislikes you, unless it's a teenager going through a bad phase. Listen to your child - it's not the sort of thing a child would normally say, is it? The subtext, I think, is that he doesn't like his dad, either (though he may well love him.) At 3, who would like someone who didn't like his mum?

Be thankful that your little ds trusts you enough to tell you what he's been thinking about.

I suggest you keep what your ds has told you to yourself and start thinking about what your relationship with your h is doing to you and to ds.

It's not normal to feel your partner doesn't like you - you should feel loved, appreciated and made happier by your partner. Your son is learning about how relationships work by watching you - remember that and please have the strength to walk away if you have to - or , resolve it through counselling if you think can make clear enough boundaries and that he is a good man underneath.

don't tell your husband what your son said if you think he is abusive - he won't care. FIrstly you need to work out what the truth is - and see this as a wake up call, your son needs to grow up in a loving environment.