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DP and me... Advice please?!

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TiarasTimeOutsAndTantrums · 13/11/2011 13:37

A few years ago when DS was a newborn DP got very friendly with his best mates girlfriend. He admitted having feelings for her, there was a lot of texting and fb messaging that was inappropriate. He moved out for a while then we patched things up.
The other day I clicked on his Facebook and saw messages to another girl about spitting and swallowing. He maintains it was innocent and part of a conversation going on in the room (I wasn't there he was at a friends with his best mate and girl from before)
He has now locked the computer, passwords his phone etc and it's making me uncomfortable as he looks like he has something to hide.
I've also asked him to stop contact with the original woman as they still text and to not go over there if his mate isn't there too.
He says I'm over reacting and trying to control what he does and he won't take passwords off and stop seeing her.
I don't no if I'm being controlling or if he is hiding something!

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TiarasTimeOutsAndTantrums · 13/11/2011 13:38

Pushes send too soon.
Also money issue. He gives me an amount each month towards food and bills but hadn't this month as he just started new job and had very little. Now found out he got a sub from his boss and has been buying clothes and protein shakes etc but not given me anything towards bills

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izzywhizzyspecanpie · 13/11/2011 13:39

You are not being controlling and he is hiding something.

The question is, what do you want do about it? Are you prepared to live with a man you can't trust?

Bluebelle38 · 13/11/2011 13:40

he has no respect for you at all.

I wouldn't trust him far as I could throw him.

Did the mate know he was flirting with his gf? Surprised he wants him near them.

izzywhizzyspecanpie · 13/11/2011 13:41

If anyone's being controlling here, it's him.

How does he expect you to be able to survive on nothing? Are you feeding him as well as yourself and ds?

TiarasTimeOutsAndTantrums · 13/11/2011 13:41

He did but DP claimed a breakdown and that he wasn't himself so his mate forgave him. They didn't speak for about a year though.

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TiarasTimeOutsAndTantrums · 13/11/2011 13:43

He's on a body building diet and this month he has bought all his meat but left me to provide gas, electric, food for me, 2.8 yr old DS, 18month old DD and 4 yr old DSD every other weekend

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FabbyChic · 13/11/2011 13:50

He is taking the piss, get rid of this man he is not on the level.

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