Relationship Book Advice...?

[woopsidaisy]

Hi. I think I have read some posts here where people have recommended a book on how to get over an affair. I have a friend whose sister is going through very bad time with an ex,and wondered if anyone knew what the title was?
Thanks.

Andrew Marshall's 'When will I thrust again'.(or title words to that effect)

Shirley Glass's Not Just Friends is a great book and came highly recommended on here. I bought it online. She has a website that you can look at.

Very interesting theart. I think 'Not Just Friends' has it's place but is overly recommended on the Relationship thread.
OP, your friend's sister could go to the library and dip in and out of many books on Relationships, as I did . Not overly sticking to one author is advisable .

Interesting link - I am not sure what they are getting at though (or maybe its too early in the morning for me and I need to re read it?). I do know that my H found NJF very uncomfortable but illuminating reading so I disagree that its on the cheater's side.

The book explains how easy is it to slip down the slippery slope from a friendship into an affair, how to affair proof a marriage and how to look at character flaws/vulnerabilities in the relationship/environment etc. It also covers emotional affairs as well as physical affairs.

Just had a proper look at W&T's website - it seems that they are very much against counselling, getting back together etc after an affair and they advocate divorce in all cases (e.g you can't uncrack an egg). They don't offer advice - just opinions.

I wouldn't recommend the Wayne and Tamara link. Unlike the authors they castigate, this couple appear to have no academic qualifications in relationship therapy and advise couples to see themselves as 'one half of eachother'. They reinforce very sexist stereotypes of relationships and write from what looks like a fundamentalist religious perspective. It is clear that they never advise couples to stay together after an affair, regardless of the circumstances. In real-life, a more nuanced approach is required. For some people, repeated infidelity is an ingrained behaviour that is unlikely to change and therefore your friend's sister's ex should remain an ex. For others though, it is a one-off, much regretted episode and the relationship can be salvaged.

Without knowing the circumstances in your OP, it's difficult to advise appropriate reading, but Not Just Friends is certainly one of the best about infidelity and I strongly disagree with the review posted here.

Sorry for not getting back before!
Not Just Friends is the one I was thinking of.
Her ex had an affair-denied it of course-and is now being so cruel and nasty. Just ended his mortgage with the bank-the house was in his name,so now she and the kids have to move out! They were married.
They think he has mental health issues-but I have seen this type of behaviour mentioned here before,so know that these guys just are selfish gits.
just thought if she could read something to help her understand that he is an arse,she has done nothing wrong.
It is all very sad.
Thanks for the replies.

If they were married, she should have a claim on the property & assets anyway? She needs good legal advice asap.