After being on my own for years, I decided to try internet dating as I dont often go out, I dont like to ask for help with childcare. Eventually I met a guy who virtually swept me off my feet but like most things it was too good to be true and I came crashing down to earth with a thud. He was in a previous relationship for 24yrs and his ex slept with another man, which totally crushed him. The mistake I made was to get involved with a man fresh out of a long term relationship who had been hurt, by the time we met he had only split from her 6months, admittidley I stayed with him for 14months but because I really warmed to him I found it hard to get rid, but I found the strength to in the end. He was totally possessive, sulky, untrusting in me as he would often accuse me of things, he totally did not like the idea of me texting friends or paying anyone else attention, he even stropped if I paid my 11yr old daughter more attention, his behaviour got too much for me. It was frustrating because he had such a kind, loving, caring side to him. unbelievably my family seem to think Ive been too harsh and are making me feel as though hes the bloody victim. I'd rather be on my own than have him back. I do often think of him and I always come to the same conclusion, there are more cons than pros, and I definetely would not want him back. unfortunately he had childhood issues with his mother and did not have a very good relationship with her, I did urge him to have counselling as a condition of us getting back together the last time we had a bust up- he promised he would go for counselling and begged me not to leave and help him. In the end I chose to go as I could never live or continue a relationship with him, any ideas about this??