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The Essentail Post- Holiday My MIL did this.... thread

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PeachyClair · 02/01/2006 16:17

My interesting boxing day with MIL, by Peachyclair aged 32 1/2:

Took ds's including ds1 (AS) to MIL's Boxing day, always a bad move but duty calls. She knows full well that Sam (DS1) is being taught to ask for time out when it gets too much. So several hours into the visit he comes to me and says 'I need time alone'. So I tell him to take a few pencils (MIL had been drawing with them at table) and a sheet of paper and go sit in the Kitchen, it's got breakfast bar around an extension bit so perfect and no damge he could do. She follows him and (thinking I am outside loading car with DH) SCREAMS at him to get in the front room, don't listen to Mummy she (MIL)is in charge...

AND THEN we ate lunch. Two of mine are lactose intolerant. DS1 went for the Pavlova anyway, but DS3 is too young to take responsibility and I said 'Can he have the chocolate one pleae'. Duly served and when finished, BIL said how nice the chocolate one was. 'mmm', said MIL 'It was a bit dry this morning, but I added half a bottle of rum to moisten it up'.

AAARGGGHH!! He's 2.5, for goodness sake! Run!

Don't think I am going back for a while.

Thanks for listening. Any more horror stories anyone?

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Crystaltips · 02/01/2006 16:27

Oh Bloody Hell
How did you manage to hold your tongue .... ?

WigWamBam · 02/01/2006 16:28

She spoke to your son like that and you stayed there?? Sorry, I would have walked out there and then.

Crystaltips · 02/01/2006 16:32

I'm with you WWb ..... and would have been thrilled in the process that this was the get out clause for not having to return again - for a very long time ....

Worked for me ..... and now finally ( 4 years later ) I am feeling I am now prepared to meet the old witch - but this time she knows that I hold the trump card .....

ladymuck · 02/01/2006 16:33

My MIL gave me £100 of vouchers for my local spa.....

...she gave me a cheque 3 weeks before Chirstmas in order to buy stuff for the ds's (in fact most of the cheque has gone into their savings accounts).....

....and we didn't see her over Christmas (she lives in Belfast).

A brilliant MIL.

Blondeinlondon · 02/01/2006 16:59

My MIL served a pie on boxing day
Half way through eating her slice she said "oh I think it's got nuts in"... her darling son is severely nut-allergic and had already wolfed his down!

Pinotmum · 02/01/2006 17:02

My MIL sent my dd aged 5 yo a tea towel for a xmas present. This was all she sent her! I'm still puzzled.

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PeachyClair · 02/01/2006 17:26

Pinotmum- LOL!

Walking out not very easy as we were 70 miles away, but we left ASAP AS DH had had enough anyway

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lockets · 02/01/2006 17:30

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collision · 02/01/2006 17:32

My MIL has still never met DS2 who is 13 months old!

Tis great....wicked old witch!!

HappyNewFrannyandZooey · 02/01/2006 17:52

Oh God...we have managed to put off seeing mine until this weekend and now I wish I had got it over with already...

Selected highlights of last visit were her telling me to get down on my knees and scrub her kitchen floor, and kicking dp while he was holding ds.

Potty1 · 02/01/2006 17:59

My MIL said she was sending the (3) children some chocolate for Christmas. She sent them a large tin of Celebrations, a large bar of choc and a box of bicuits each . FGS, does she not value their teeth or does she want them overweight?

One of the tins is going to dd's physiotherapist team tomorrow, any takers on the other??

edam · 02/01/2006 18:02

Hey Lockets, congrats to your step-MIL. All the people who actually do useful things get MBEs.

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PeachyClair · 02/01/2006 18:20

Yes, congrats Lockets.

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colette · 02/01/2006 18:25

My mil took 5 weeks to accept our invitation to xmas dinner by the time she had said yes I did not want her to come anyway. Y
Yesterday we had a new years dinner at hers and she cooked the full xmas turkey etc. which I did not really want to eat aftet watching that tv programme about how they are treated. It was not as nice as the beef we had anyway ..

colette · 02/01/2006 18:26

Lockets I would like a swap , your mil sounds great.

Wallace · 02/01/2006 18:35

That's awful

My MIL was keeping an eye on our house for us while we were away for Christmas. I was gobsmacked when we arrived home to find she had redecorated our Christmas tree Okay it did have far to much tinsel (of many colours) on beforehand, and wasn't the prettiest sight ever, but the kids had such fun doing it. She removed most of the tinsel leaving one colour artistically draped evenly around the tree

shellybelly · 02/01/2006 18:39

Thankfully didn't have xmas day with MIL, MIL and BIL and SIL came for 1/2 hour and that was it, more than I could stand, from day 1 of being preggars with DD who is now 6 months, I couldn't get away from her and she made so many plans with dd before she was born (without asking me btw) that I hated seeing her, I had a previous molar preg and asked family to tone it down when I saw them ie not getting overly excited (hard thing to ask I know) but it was mainly so I didn't start worrying more than I was as we were justing taking it one day at a time.

I avoided her on new years eve when she called up she talks to my daughter in goo goo language but keeps repeating the same thing over and over that I have to walk out of the room, tbh shes a lovely person but extremely OTT

Don't get me started on SIL tho coz that is a totally different matter, was so annoyed xmas day with her

melissasmummy · 02/01/2006 21:50

Can I rant about my aunt in law? (mil lives in Australia)

WE stayed at DH's aunt's & uncle's house xmas day (we are hoping to emigrate so this may be our last xmas, otherwise we would NEVER have stayed)

Just bathed DD (2.3) and she was all ready for bed, just sitting on what would be our bed drinking her milk & reading while DH & I put up her travel cot. AIL said "I'll take her downstairs, she's getting bored" To which I said, "no, please don't she won't settle if you do".

We had finished the cot building & went to get DD & she wasn't on the bed, AIL had taken her downstairs to met some newly arrived house guests & look at the lights on the xmas tree. Completly overstimulating her!

I took DD back upstairs & she took an hour & a half to settle, (most of the time being held & rocked) & I was the one who had to stay with her as she didn't want anyone else. DH told AIL it was her fault that DD wouldn't settle, but she said "I just thought melissasmummy was being awkward" Bloody Charmin!

fireflyfairy2 · 02/01/2006 22:17

SHELLY.. do tell I could write a book on my SIL..but I think she may actually post on here so will remain tactfully mute

twotonetinsel · 03/01/2006 00:00

OOooh Wallace, nothing worse than a tasteful Christmas tree. No need to do a Trinny and Susanna on it.

TheholyGHOSTY · 03/01/2006 00:39

Ha ha ...
MIL spent christmas in Antarctica (true, true, she did ... best place for her )
And FIL and Step Witch in Law went on a cruise ...
So we were FREE, FREE, FREE!!
Next year though, MY parents are coming to NZ but luckily my DH does like his PsIL!!!

shellybelly · 03/01/2006 08:10

Mmmmm SIL never ever liked me when I came on the scene she actually admitted (one drunken day) that she felt threatened by me, thought I was going to steal MIL or something daft (ps its not her mum btw) anyway its always been "polite" whenever family has met up and when I became pregnant she never ever ever once phoned or came to see me, towards the end of it MIL said she was so excited about being an aunty (WTF) she has seen dd twice and one of those times was in hospital not long after the birth, anyway xmas card to dd rattled on about having a wonderful niece (never attempts to see her) I feel its all very two faced tbh.

Blackduck · 03/01/2006 08:51

Can I extend this to SIL's - my MIL is great so no worries there...but my SIL makes me . I am convinced that she is recycling her unwanted xmas pressies on ds and it makes my blood boil...I wouldn't mind if it was something he would like/enjoy/play with, but it is quite obviously stuff that has been given to her ds that she thinks is unsuitable/waste of space etc...
I know it's the thought that counts - but that's the whole point there IS no thought...!
AHHHHHHHHHHHHH
How do I subtly tell her not to bother next year...

podkin · 03/01/2006 08:57

My MIL rang to say she had got home safely after visiting us for a couple of days over xmas - she said, 'I have had such a lovely time being able to just sit around and do nothing...'. That about sums it up really...