I've changed my name for this. I think it maybe a rant so apologies but any help would be appreciated and I am aware that I may be being unreasonable in my expectations.
Been married 5 years to DH who I've known for about 6 years. Got two DC 4 and 2.5. I feel so unhappy but don't know whether I need to pull myself together and just settle for the DC sake or to take action.
I feel as though my life isn't my own in terms of DH, he seems controlling in a very subtle way and I can't really explain and not sure whether I am being paranoid.
We both work - me 4 days and DC go to nursery. I really struggle to keep on top of things in terms of housework and jobs etc. DH makes the tea every night for me and him whilst I put the kids to bed and does his share of pick up and drop off but he often makes grumbling noises about things that haven't been done - it really p's me off. To be honest I think it would be easier to make tea than trying to get the kids off to bed.
Eg he'll complain that I leave all the lights on in the house (maybe three lights when I'm moving from room to room to try to organise the kids), he'll moan that there's no clean clothes for the kids. He'll moan if I put the kids in nursery on my day off to catch up with jobs. He doesn't always complain openly, I just feel like he's complaining inwardly IYKWIM? When I ask him about it he says that he's not moaning. I then question whether I'm over reacting or imagining it.
Sorry but I'm ranting aren't I. Can anyone help me clear my thoughts and take some action. I feel really stuck and don't want to feel so miserable.
Thanks for reading